Does this mean he likes me?

[TheCherryOnTop]

These last months a friend of mine has been looking for me A LOT. With that I mean calling me every day about 7 times, sending me msgs with no reason, and coming home to 'visit' me, even if I wasn't even there and he had to come back later. One of those visits was to give me, as a gift, a cute little white kitten, because he'd seen me sad about my other cat disappearing.

We've spent, once, all the afternoon together, and last sunday, the whole day, from 3 pm until 3 am. Sometimes alone, sometimes my family was home. We went to a Blockbuster, he doesn't like love movies, but still he told me 'I like this one'. Movie's name: friends with benefits. While watching the movies, I couldn't focus because he was so close, and I felt as if he were thinking the same thing. Then we went for a walk, and talked for two hours about life. When he was leaving, he told me 'I'm getting to know you better' and smiled.

The thing is... he didn't made any obvious moves. He talked about his exs. Curiously, he looked at me and told me 'I'm slow (with girls)', but I've never seen him having trouble. He's pretty 'confident', or so it seems... maybe just a facade? And idk... one of his friends once (lot of time ago) mentioned he didn't played with me, telling me pick up lines and stuff like he sometimes does, because he respects me.

I'm scared of just being delusional and imagining all this. He's so confusing! I mean... I cannot tell if he likes me as a friend, or more. I don't understand anything. Pls, help! I know it sounds kinda obvious, but I assure you, for me it's not. For one side, what he's doing... yes, of course it's not common. For me at least. But seeing how he does behave when we're together, I don't really feel anything out of place. Maybe it's just me? Also losing him will be really sad, because he's been nicer to me than anyone else, even when I can be a cold and difficult person. He never surrendered... this is certainly a surprise.

[vashti]

Tell him you hope to find someone exactly like him one day because he is exactly the kind of guy you would date.

It sounds like he likes you, but needs some encouragement to make a move.

[Yet another guy]

Seems to me like he not only likes you but is also desperately obsessed by you.
He's probably quite shy and is trying to find out if you're interested in him at all.

[devonbrown]

It does sound like he likes you and is shy around you. He might seem confident around other girls, but for some guys the shyness only kicks in when faced with a situation and person that they really care for. The fear of getting hurt might be higher for him here because he really does like you and that is causing him to not make any move too quick.

Good luck.

[smackie9]

A guy just doesnt call out of the blue or messages you 7 times a day for nothing. There are a lot of shy guys out there that are friends with you first in hopes you will get to know them and fall for them. This time around tho this guy is luck because so many girls put this type of guy in the friends zone. He needs a lot of green lights or signals from you before he will be comfortable to make a move. Go for it flirt with him with sexy messages.

[TheCherryOnTop]

Ok... I think you all agreed on him liking me...
So, the best thing I could do, I suppose, is try sending him subtle messages so he finds the balls to tell me? I'm not one of those girls to go and tell him how I feel. I'm not. Besides I don't really know how I feel, LOL. But these last days he's been going around my head nonstop.

[Evo1114]

Yes.

'I'm slow with girls' = 'I want to make a move, but if you would be so kind as to just give me a little sign, I could put this indecision to rest and just go right ahead and pounce on you instead'. I've used that line before and that was exactly what I was thinking when I said it.

Or just make a move yourself. Not too many dudes are going to be like 'Whoa, whoa, whoa! Hey now! I just want to make one thing clear. I'm not that kind of dude!'

[HeartIsAching]

Ok... I think you all agreed on him liking me...
So, the best thing I could do, I suppose, is try sending him subtle messages so he finds the balls to tell me? I'm not one of those girls to go and tell him how I feel. I'm not. Besides I don't really know how I feel, LOL. But these last days he's been going around my head nonstop.

No, don't use subtle signs. He will second-guess himself if you do. Use unmistakable signs. What Vashti said was an excellent suggestion. I personally think you should just say this to him:

"If you like me, you should ask me out sometime."

*BOOM* done.

[Yet another guy]

Good advice from HIA. Even better in my opinion would be to straight up ask him out.

[TheCherryOnTop]

Well... it's okay if you want to kill me for this, but I think he only calls me and comes home so much because he's scaping his home. I know his dad is really insufferable.

I talked with my cousin about it, and she told me he has a lot of other friends to go with and spend the whole day, and yet he comes to my house. I know he fought with them a week ago and he's still mad at them, but well, this whole 'harassing' stuff started, like I said, some months ago. But sheesh... I'm really complicated. It's incredible he's still pursuing me.

[Yet another guy]

Yeah, he's really persistent.

[HeartIsAching]

Ask him. Do it.

[TheCherryOnTop]

Ask him. Do it.

YES! I DID IT!!

He came yesterday. We had finally arranged plans to drink something here at home, and then go to a bar. We drank some wine, and talked a lot about stuff, and when I was already prepared to go out, he suddenly 'started to feel bad', so we stayed. I brought him a glass of water, and then we lied together on my bed (upstairs). We talked there too, and it wasn't long before he became touchy-feely and hugged me. Then I knew there was definitely something going on when we started holding hands. And yes, we kissed. The first thing he told me was 'Shit... we screwed friendship up'. I told him it needen't to be like that, and that I didn't wanted to stop being friends.

So... we kissed the whole night, and some other... 'activities'. We didn't had sex because I told him I didn't felt ready yet; he was really kind with me in everything, whenever I said no he stopped. I also touched him of course, but I'm a virgin and he's not. So... we touched and kissed a lot, and laughed and talked too. In some moment he hugged me really strong and told me he loved me a lot.

I feel that what we are now it's some kind of friends with benefits and absolutely adore it. I told him some day we were going to have sex (it was me, he didn't insist, really) because I really trusted and liked him, but not tonight, and he told me it was alright. Finally, we fell asleep at 5 am hugging, and woke up at 7 when he had to go home. (I fell from bed LMAO it was super funny and shameful). He was about to kiss me goodbye but my (!) stepfather was there so he just kissed me.

Ok... a really great and unbelievable night. I feel now that maybe we went a little bit fast, but as I've never really had a serious thing with a boy I liked I cannot tell. Besides... I enjoyed it. A lot. Would definitely do it again.

THANK YOUUU!

[HeartIsAching]

YES! I DID IT!!

He came yesterday. We had finally arranged plans to drink something here at home, and then go to a bar. We drank some wine, and talked a lot about stuff, and when I was already prepared to go out, he suddenly 'started to feel bad', so we stayed. I brought him a glass of water, and then we lied together on my bed (upstairs). We talked there too, and it wasn't long before he became touchy-feely and hugged me. Then I knew there was definitely something going on when we started holding hands. And yes, we kissed. The first thing he told me was 'Shit... we screwed friendship up'. I told him it needen't to be like that, and that I didn't wanted to stop being friends.

So... we kissed the whole night, and some other... 'activities'. We didn't had sex because I told him I didn't felt ready yet; he was really kind with me in everything, whenever I said no he stopped. I also touched him of course, but I'm a virgin and he's not. So... we touched and kissed a lot, and laughed and talked too. In some moment he hugged me really strong and told me he loved me a lot.

I feel that what we are now it's some kind of friends with benefits and absolutely adore it. I told him some day we were going to have sex (it was me, he didn't insist, really) because I really trusted and liked him, but not tonight, and he told me it was alright. Finally, we fell asleep at 5 am hugging, and woke up at 7 when he had to go home. (I fell from bed LMAO it was super funny and shameful). He was about to kiss me goodbye but my (!) stepfather was there so he just kissed me.

Ok... a really great and unbelievable night. I feel now that maybe we went a little bit fast, but as I've never really had a serious thing with a boy I liked I cannot tell. Besides... I enjoyed it. A lot. Would definitely do it again.

THANK YOUUU!

You were right - you don't have to stop being friends. My wife is my best friend. I'm so glad to hear that things are working out for you.

I wouldn't advise going the "friends with benefits" route. That will lead to heartbreak for you. Insist on a real relationship.

[TheCherryOnTop]

You were right - you don't have to stop being friends. My wife is my best friend. I'm so glad to hear that things are working out for you.

I wouldn't advise going the "friends with benefits" route. That will lead to heartbreak for you. Insist on a real relationship.

But... gosh I think now everything can become or way complicated, or not. I don't know his intentions. I don't know if I want a serious relationship with him. It's obviously not a simple friendship anymore, but also... oh my. This time I really won't have the guts to call him so he's gonna have to do it. When we see each other it's gonna be SO awkward, hahahahaha.