Hello,
This issue is with my girlfriend of 10 months now she is twenty years old. She has been on birth control for about 4 years, and has had nothing but issues. She has tried multiple kinds of the pill her issue is that she gets really bad migraines when using them.
About three months ago her doctor changed her pills again at her request, not because of headaches but rather her cycle did not come (for approx 2 and a half months). This time the pill she is taking doesn't give her headaches, her cycle is normal, but she has almost a complete loss of libido.
For the first six months or so that we were dating she was very sexual we would have sex basically every time we were together (approx 5-6 days a week). It didn't matter the time, location you name it she had a very healthy sex drive.
Now with the pill she is taking sex happens maybe 3-4 times between her cycles. She has no drive whatsoever. I feel terrible and am starting to find myself getting really depressed. I still have the same drive but she is not able to forfill it. I have tried talking to her about it many times, asked her to talk to her doctor and even tried to get her in the mood she just gets mad and frusturated it feels like nothing works.
Her doctor basically told her that she is out of options as far as the pill goes. I suggested other options, we ususally use condoms anyways but have had a couple break so we aren't completely sold on them. I mentioned the IUD but she has heard that it can decrease your chances of having a baby in the future. Diaphragms she refuses to use, the injection pill is also out of the question (she hates shots). So I am unsure of what to do, I feel terrible because she isn't able to deliever what I want, and she feels terrible and its hard on her too.
I have suggested maybe she could do other things for me if shes not in the mood. But I was told not in the mood means she isn't wanting to do anything for me either, whether it be oral or just playing around.
What scares me is I have read that the loss of libido from taking pills can be permanent. So I am stuck in quite the mess, she is the right girl for me, but I am getting the crap end of the stick and I just want some advice or suggestions because it doesn't seem fair.
Thanks