Hi Ladies, I am in desperate need of a woman’s point of view. I have been married now for 7 year and have two beautiful children aged 4 & 5 months. My wife and I have two different sexual needs. When we first meet like all relationships the sex was great, spontainous, adventuress regular but not too long after got married it started changing. Now 7 years down the track it is completely different. My sex drive remains the same but my wife’s is not. I need to be intermit it seems at least once a week before it physically starts changing my personality. When we do have sex it is usually when I am extremely frustrated and she decides to “Relieve me” which at the moment is around 10 days give or take. Life is busy now with kids and busy life style. In the past we have tried to talk about it but we always seem to argue. She only see’s her side and I only see mine. One of the things that really plays on my mind that in the 9 years we have been together I have never experienced her have an orgasm. So I asked her last night if in the last 9 years has she had one and she answered “of course”. This obviously means she can achieve orgasm on her own but not with me. I asked her why she thinks this is so; the answer was “I don’t know”. What does this mean? And believe me I have tried everything to try and make it happen but it never has. So now I’m wondering if this is the reason she has no real desire to have sex? She also said if I get frustrated why don’t I watch porn and satisfy myself? I asked “why don’t we try it together and she said NO” because it makes her feel self conscious watching girls she thinks are better looking than her. I totally do not understand this?? She is happy for me to watch it behind her back but not with her? Surely this is not healthy for our relationship? Around two years ago I resigned to the fact that things are never going to change and just learned to live with it. I now know that it’s not possible. I think that having a great sex life in marriage can be a real key to happiness. It’s not everything but never the less important where as my wife does not. Please let me know your opinion weather it is with or against me. I would love to know other women’s opinions? Look forward to your response!