I broke up with my girlfriend and I feel simply terrible

[goosebumps]

Hello everyone ,

I have been with my girlfriend for almost a year now , and in the past months I turned
really busy and could not really give her the attention she either wanted or really deserved .
She is a great girl , I love her very much and I really don't think I will find a girl like her ,
but the past months have really pushed me to end everything .
I have started to talk to her 10 minutes a day , maybe , and go to her or have her
over only once a week , at times once per couple of weeks .

At first I was sure it was the pressure and other stuff I had to do which made my
time with her a bit unjoyful and made me a bit remote ,
but later I understood it was'nt just that , I simply felt just-fine
being with her and not more than that .

So couple of days ago I cut it off , and told her it as on my mind for a while but I have'nt
had the courage to say it till then .

From that point on I felt and feel just horrible , I`m constantly crying and feel like I`m
having a fever , and in general feel really bad .

I still love her a lot , but I know it's just not going to be how it used to be ,
I know this story is really generic and no one can really help but myself
but I still want to share this somehow .

Thank you guys , and have a better day than me !

[searock]

Do you want to get back together with her, did you realize that you are actually madly in love with her? Or are you sad because of the huge change in your life? If it's the latter, don't worry, time will heal. Just be strong and focus on feeling better, keep yourself busy so that you don't have time to wallow in negative thoughts.

[ashley89]

it sounds to me like you made the right choice. you said that you weren't happy and it was for a bunch of reasons, not just because you didn't have a lot of time with her. your gut feeling is usually never wrong, so if you truly feel that you weren't enjoying being with her, it is better that you end the relationship instead of continuing on with it just because you feel bad. you are going to be upset even though you're the one who ended it because you loved her and shared good memories, and change is always hard, but like searock said time will heal this and she will move on too.