Sort of an introduction and a question

[Andre]

First of all let me just apologize if this text is a bit unorganized, but I want to give you all a bit of my background, withought writing a HUGE text...

Hi, I'm a 22 years old guy and I never had sex, never kissed, never dated a girl (and no, I'm not gay).
Most people are kind of surprised when they hear about this, but for me it's really a natural thing because it's not that I never wanted to date a girl or anything, things just never happened I guess.
I don't think I'm VERY GOOD LOOKING, but I think I'm normal (whatever that means).
I'm a really shy guy, I've allways been. I'm also a bit thin, not anoretic or anything, but thin, and some girls have mentioned it as being bad.
I've had some situations where girls would (out of the blue, not that I asked them anything, and not that I had shown interest) say things like "Oh Andre, if only things were different" with a sigh and stuff like that, or "If only you weren't so thin...". So I guess I'm not a totally unatractive guy (apart from the thin thing).
Also, the other day I went to a gig and I knew the band so I went backstage as some other people who knew them (but there wasn't any kind of orgy going on or anything ), and there was a girl there, she was really nice and sweet, but also a bit shy seeing she allways kind of isolated herself, but she was allways smilling at me and she blinked at me and all, which doesn't mean she would want to have a relationship but it would have been nice if I had gathered the strength to EVEN talk to her, which I didn't...
But anyway, the problem, now, is that I think that if I start dating a girl, let's say, my own age, 22 years old, she will SURELY have had other boyfriends, and starting a relationship now, she would probably want a man that would please her with his kissing, sexually, etc, and not an inexperienced guy that has to be taught everything.....
I mean, I have cousins that are 6 years younger than me and they have girlfriends, and that's the normal age around here I guess.
So, I guess my question is, do you think women just want someone to satisfy them, or are they open to be a guy's "teacher"?

[Darkchildska]

Umm, thats a hard question to answer it would depend on the woman.

[Andre]

Yeah, I guess it would depend on the woman, but still, can the fact of me being inexperienced be REALLY important in her decision to have, or not, a relationship with me? Or do you think that if that was the only, let's say, negative point, she would overlook that "small" detail...
Also, the fact of being inexperienced doesn't mean I can't be good at it, who knows, I might have a natural talent .

[BillyGalbreath]

...she would probably want a man that would please her with his kissing, sexually, etc, and not an inexperienced guy that has to be taught everything..... do you think women just want someone to satisfy them, or are they open to be a guy's "teacher"?

Um dude. The answer to your question is hard to answer - like mentioned before - it really depends on the woman - BUT - you must remember this - One does not 'learn' to have sex or 'learn' to kiss - you already know how to.

My first kiss sucked ass because I thaught about it too much - 'how was i gonna do it' 'what do i do' where do i stick my tongue' etc etc - But once I stopped kissing and leaned back and looked into her eyes my mind went blank - and i just went in for another kiss and THAT was the best kiss I have ever had in my life.

Same with sex - when the time comes for it to happen your not going to have to sit there and think 'ok, how do I get this thing to get up' ' where do I stick it' ' how hard to i pound her' etc etc - your just going to get in the mood and it will do its thing and then you subconsciencely will know what to do. When I had sex the first time it lasted about 45 minutes and when we were finished she looked at me and asked me, "Are you sure that was your first time?"

You will know what to do when the time comes - BUT most women dont realize this - they find out your a virgin - or even if you look like one - they think ... well shit - i dont know what they think - but its not good.

All women need to wake up and realize that it doesnt matter if your a virgin or not - Good lovers are not taught or made - They are born !

hmm.. I dont know if I answered your question or not - but yeah - thats what I've got to say.

[Andre]

I guess your reply made feel a bit less worried about it Billy, thanks..

And also, if women give such importance to that, maybe it's a good way to "test" if one really likes me or not..

[Exodus]

Well i dunno much either, only had one girlfriend, but I told her when we started going out that I hadn't had a girlfriend before and she was like oooh your new!! thats hot! Knowing that she wouldn't have to be judged on how she was doing. And plus she would get to teach all the little tricks to me and suprise me so much When you think of it like that it makes it sounds a lot better. Course there will be a time of awkwardness, thats always there... but it passes.

[Andre]

Thanks Exodus, that's kinda what I'm hoping will happen to me....