Hello all,
I'm wondering if you could give me some advice.
My ex and I recently broke up after a 1yr relationship. I have been trying to get her back in the last few days but I have found out that she is now using tinder. We discussed for a bit and she said she's using it to distract herself from feeling down. I have told her that I really want our relationship to work, that I wanted to make a future with her. She said she still loves for me and cares but needed time to think and consider because she thinks that our relationship is unstable and we might end up breaking up again.
I know I can't stop her from using it but I have told her that I feel really insecure and worthless. I told her that I respected her view that she needed space/time to think through and I asked her if she still valued our relationship to stop using tinder for now and really take the time to reflect on us. (is this too much to ask of her?) She agreed that she wouldn't use it but I have found out recently she is still on it and chatting to other guys. Where I come from is a really small place, so everybody kinda know's everyone. I have had calls from friends and friends friends saying that they have noticed her on and chatting. I felt so sick in the stomach, I don't know what to do. I feel betrayed. I know I don't really have the right to say "betrayed" because originally I did end our relationship with her but even after a promise and giving me her word she still continues.
Should I approach her? What should I do? I really do love her and want to make our relationship better again. This is really driving me crazy.
Please if you could offer some advice I would be greatly greatly appreciated!