The first test of No Contact. (exciting!)

[bohemiandonut]

Okay, if you aren't aware, I recently got the first IM from the girl (please read What Should I Do? [url]http://www.loveforum.net/t6156-what-should-i-do.html[/url]) that recently broke up with me. She seemed sad, but I signed off. Now I get this e-mail. I hope you're all excited to read this because it seems like these things rarely happen on here. Well here you go:

Subject: eternal sunshine of the spotted mind

Nick,

OK. I think we should still communicate regardless of
what has happened, which i dont even know. I have
pnemonia. It sucks. I do not know how you regard me,
but I kind of regret I ever got involved with you, at
least sexually, if we are never going to talk again.
I think its pretty dumb considered we have had tons of
great experience, many types of sex zillions of times
in zillons of places....So, I realize your are
probably poking fun at this document a millions times
by now, but thats the risk i take in sending it to
you. If all communication ceases, i think it would be
a big mistake, because it would erase all the beatific
things that we have shared to together and i think
that would be a shame. I mean, I would totally get my
mind erased. I really want to if I cant even ask you
when your book is back, which am planning to read
tongiht. I mean you have to see, I don't want to
vulgur but you know all the stuff we did, and right
now I kind of regret doing any of it;which is sad. I
was mad that you lied about smoking and drinking wine
at a party of girls because whatever I said on friday
did not deserve that kind of disrespect towards me. I
am sure you are probably only remembering all the bad
things and bitchy aspects of me; as that is pretty
much what i try to remember about you to not overheat
myself, sorry to say' so i really do not know how you
will take this. If I get a response, i am sure it
will be snide etc. but i do think you should at least
hear out what i said.....................



Scary, eh?

I'm shaking right now. Tell me not to be convinced. She always makes me question my own integrity. Well at least we know she hasn't transfomed yet. I'm glad I signed off.

She wants me "hear out" what she "said." She's right, because my reply would probably be something like: "Welcome to my world biatch!"

As for the "disrespect" towards her, she's referring to my going out on Saturday (she was stuck home), the day after she had told me she wanted to break up, described her thoughts on the one-night-stands she wanted to have, and then begged me for sex and never apologized. I didn't cheat on her, I simply had a glass of wine and smoked pot (which she looks down on.) I was living my own life, uncertain of where the relationship was going, and I told her that on Monday. On Tuesday she broke up with me: "you're not fun."

She's mad apparently that I smoked reefer.

Thoughts?

[mhussain]

the question mate isnt what she is or isnt,
honestly honestly ask urself this,
DO U LOVE HER?
for once stop the jokes, stop rememberring the good and bad times and just ask urself whether u still love her or not.

answer that mate and then only i can reply.

Hussain

[Junket]

Eh, I disagree with Saddam, I say keep the communications ceased for a while longer just to see what she does. Then worry about what you wanna do.

[C1d6OC]

Both have good points, but I think when reading that letter, it's hard NOT to see that she wants to keep an open door. Don't Respond to her. That is a definite. She said what she had to say. She is telling you that no contact "won't work". That's what's in her head, because she is the one that dumped you. To her, everything is cool and keeping in touch will keep you in her life. What she doesn't understand now, she will later on.

Truth be told that she doesn't know what is going through your head. That is why she assumes in the letter how she thinks you'll respond. For example she says "If I get a response, i am sure it will be snide" How would she know? Listen, the letter is there to get a reaction out of you. If you give that reaction, she in a sense has regained this mind power. If you are going to react, make sure you take some time to think about what you are going to say first. Remember that humans want what they can't have. Don't cave in to her threats. She's an ex now. You will both understand later on. I hope this post makes sense to you.

Cdoc

[bohemiandonut]

If you are going to react, make sure you take some time to think about what you are going to say first. Cdoc

Don't worry, I'm being very rational.

I e-mailed her a response though:

"Keep the book for as long as you'd like. Just don't forget you have it.

Peace."

No Contact is some crazy sh*t.