Breaking out of the friend zone - advice

[willmike]

So hello there, I've joined to get some good, positive advice so I'm lookingforward to reading your replies.

This is the background,

I've begun getting close to a girl at work 3 years older over the past 3months (known her for 2 years nearly) and really beginning to fall in love with her. We go out with friends clubbing and always have a laugh, but thats my problem, I feel at times I;m more into the friend zone, as someone she can talk to and make her laugh, not someone whos hot. I want to change this, even her best friend said you are both so close, be careful with what you do. So I guess I want to know how to show her I like her subtly, and how to change her perception of me into more of b/f material. Thanks in advance for any replies, and for reading this post.

Will

[thafallenzero]

So hello there, I've joined to get some good, positive advice so I'm lookingforward to reading your replies.

This is the background,

I've begun getting close to a girl at work 3 years older over the past 3months (known her for 2 years nearly) and really beginning to fall in love with her. We go out with friends clubbing and always have a laugh, but thats my problem, I feel at times I;m more into the friend zone, as someone she can talk to and make her laugh, not someone whos hot. I want to change this, even her best friend said you are both so close, be careful with what you do. So I guess I want to know how to show her I like her subtly, and how to change her perception of me into more of b/f material. Thanks in advance for any replies, and for reading this post.

Will

Thats something you DONT want to do. Don't show her you like her. First make her want you. After she wants you, then tell her you like her.
To get out of the friend zone you will have to become attractive to her. Attractiveness isnt what your thinking. It doesnt mean get a make over or do your hair differently. Attractiveness to a girl is more about how you present yourself. Unlike guys, girls dont base who they like on looks. Girls want a MAN. Not a friend. You will need to display confidence. You have accepted who you are and your free. You are a leader of men. Not a follower. You have OPTIONS. Thats a big one. If you have options for women and she is attracted to you by this point it will set her on fire. Girls want those that are pre-selected. If another girl wants you, it makes her want you even MORE. Girls are fierce. Like female lions. You need to be the male lion. Dominate. Manly. Confident. Prideful. All of these things will make you stand out. After all of this, distance yourself from her a bit and see if shes desperately misses you. Or hang out with other girls and see if shes jealous. These are signs that she may like you as more than a friend. You love your best friend steve right? But you dont MISS him when hes not around. Even when hes gone on vacation for a week. See my point?

[carl1222]

Thats something you DONT want to do. Don't show her you like her. First make her want you. After she wants you, then tell her you like her.
To get out of the friend zone you will have to become attractive to her. Attractiveness isnt what your thinking. It doesnt mean get a make over or do your hair differently. Attractiveness to a girl is more about how you present yourself. Unlike guys, girls dont base who they like on looks. Girls want a MAN. Not a friend. You will need to display confidence. You have accepted who you are and your free. You are a leader of men. Not a follower. You have OPTIONS. Thats a big one. If you have options for women and she is attracted to you by this point it will set her on fire. Girls want those that are pre-selected. If another girl wants you, it makes her want you even MORE. Girls are fierce. Like female lions. You need to be the male lion. Dominate. Manly. Confident. Prideful. All of these things will make you stand out. After all of this, distance yourself from her a bit and see if shes desperately misses you. Or hang out with other girls and see if shes jealous. These are signs that she may like you as more than a friend. You love your best friend steve right? But you dont MISS him when hes not around. Even when hes gone on vacation for a week. See my point?

I find myself torn between your two responses, zero ... on the one hand, everything you say about girls liking confidence is spot on right ... on the other hand, while making her jealous or to think you are desirable to others may SHOW her interest but I don't think it will create interest where none exists otherwise.

Carl.

[Ruval]

Hey Mike, you should watch the movies "Just Friends" and "Zack and Miri Make a Porno". *hint* =D

[thafallenzero]

I find myself torn between your two responses, zero ... on the one hand, everything you say about girls liking confidence is spot on right ... on the other hand, while making her jealous or to think you are desirable to others may SHOW her interest but I don't think it will create interest where none exists otherwise.

Carl.

Well. You never know until you try.
I dont know you so I cant give you exact examples of what to do. But just do what you feel best.