FULL Disclosure?
So last night in the midst of the "laid off" debacle, Paul was hanging out at my house, and we started talking about Peter and where that relationship is going. During the course of that conversation he asked if I had told Peter about my son - I said I assumed that Peter knew as he was around then, is Paul's brother, etc. Paul said he was sure Peter had heard something about it but may not have put two and two together to realize that it's me. So at what point do I need to tell him?
I really care about him already, but we still haven't agreed to not see other people. (Don't get me wrong I'm not and don't think he is either, but there's been no "talk.") When do you have to lay that stuff out there?
There are some things I will NEVER tell anyone - I won't talk about numbers but the fact that there's a child in my life that could pop back up in 16 years wanting to get to know me - well that's something I need to tell him, I know but when.
I was also a bit shocked when Paul told me that while he didn't know if Peter knew or not, their mom DOES know. Why would she ever want me for her son knowing that I had a child without being married? It's like she knows the worst thing about me before she's ever gotten to know me. (She actually asked Paul if they (her and Paul) should be worried about this yet - what does that mean?)
How screwed am I?
Jules
I think the mistake a lot of us make is thinking the state-appointed shrink is our friend. - Jack Handy