friends with benefits...

[cheeze_guy]

Hi,

My friends set me up with this awesome girl and we have tons of fun together. We have been making love for about a month now and I asked her how she felt about me and if she was down to actually take out relationship to dating. She pretty much said that she wasn't down at all and is just looking to have fun. I am always down for fun and until recently this never would have bothered me... I am falling for her and it makes me a little sad that she can see me as a friend and can see me as a lover but she wants no commitment at all. I guess my question is if it hurts me just a little bit that she won't commit is it stupid for me to stay with her and keep trying to find a real relationship while getting laid or is it just better to cut her off completely and move on... Pretty much I know that I see this girl all the time she is best friends with one of my best friends and almost everytime we get together we "get" together lol. I won't stop chilling with my friends to avoid her but I know for sure that anytime we get drunk and are close we will wind up fooling around. I think the best part of writing this is I already am pretty sure I have to stop because if I am falling for her now it may only get worse and she may become more distant if there ends up being another guy in her life. Am I crazy to try to keep getting laid while looking for a real woman who is ready for a relationship or maybe i am just really hoping she will wake up and see that I could be her everything.... HELP

[Gigabitch]

This happens to girls all the time, and I'll tell you the same thing i would tell them, which is to get out now before you get your heart broken. You can't make her into what you want her to be. I'm so sorry.

[Kaius]

When i was a freshman in college, I was involved with my roommate's aunt, who was 40 (I was 19). She totally seduced me, and we had the most amazing mind-blowing sex. I was beginning to fall for her, and she looked at me like "you're kidding me right?"
We went on having sex for a couple of months, and finally she said we should stop because she felt I was getting attached. My heart was broken for a while. Nice way to start college. hahaha.

[Mister Wizard]

Wow, well...not having had any in awhile, I'm mildly envious, but you're only going to dig yourself into a hole if you keep seeing her. You'll continue to feel more and more for her, and she'll just keep pushing you farther and farther away, and you'll end up with a situation where you'll just be really unhappy. Look, she knows you dig her, so if she wants to take it further she'll find you. So get out now, find someone you actually want to have a relationship with and leave her be. But wow...to give up on all the sex.

[waytoodown]

I agree..get out now, before you get hurt!!!

Also, she knows that you're interested, so if ever she was, she'd let you know!

[cheeze_guy]

I hear you guys and I know in my heart im stupid but I love sex too much and I can't stand being alone so I will turn off my feelings for her and keep her screaming my name as long as she wants to. In the mean time I will be looking for someone who really wants to spend all kinds of time with me not just bed time. I feel like this all sucks but at least I am having a bit of fun out of this whole situation. I guess I am weaker then I would like to admit

[Charlie Boy II]

If you keep having sex with her for long enough, the chances are she'll get attached. Or you could try and knock her up.

[TheTooya]

Hmmm, if you *really* think you are going to fall for her... watch more porn, keep on having sex, but make sure to keep things in perspective. EXPECT, that it could end tomorrow and realize shes just a **** buddy. Don't get lost with thinking about commitment.

Good luck

[cheeze_guy]

ha its funny like 2 months later she cant get enough of me and now im wondering what i should do next I have only been with her and 3 other girls lately so we shall see who I choose to be with but I am starting to think that friends with benefits is all I need right now funny how things work out

[xxazurexx]

OMG....do all these girls know about each other?

They can't be 'that' fussy IMO and to sleep with a guy who they may be aware is shagging numerous others (or they are desperate).....and I hope you are wearing a condom

[xxazurexx]

Is it any wonder sexual disease is rife.....*tut*

[cheeze_guy]

Of course I wrap it up! They all know they are not exclusive because none of them want anything serious and I am a guy who dates girls for years at a time and this is my first time really living the single life so I am enjoying it. I don't know what fussy or desperate has to do with anything because no one is settling otherwise I would have been in a relationship right away. I just think it is funny that the first girl who I really wanted has fallen for me and I don't know if it's too late for her to want a relationship or not since I am loving getting to know all these beautiful girls around me without anyone getting hurt. And obviously I am not naive chances are all these girls are ****in other guys because even if I am having more sex then I ever have in my whole life when I am in a relationship I still want to do it just as much because for me it's never been about the amount of girls so I am sorry if I sound conceded but I am a very sexual person and I have so much love that I love to express it all day everyday. I will do anything to make the 1 person I am with feel like the most important person in the world because the people I keep close to me make me feel the same way. Anyways thanks for reminding me why I say this shit on a forum and not at as a discussion with everyone haha

[kitkitkitty]

if you keep sleeping with her til you find another girl that actually wants commitment, how's this new girl gona feel when you tell her? she'll probably get the impression that she's just another link in the chain and won't take you seriously.

[cheeze_guy]

p.s I am uber clean and get tested once a year since I was hit by a car a few years ago I get blood tests once a year I would never **** around with STD's or pregnancy. I know it is a privilege to be having so much fun right now so I would do nothing to **** it up and I don't do one night stands at bars or anything these girls are all friends of friends and shit like that

[cheeze_guy]

if you keep sleeping with her til you find another girl that actually wants commitment, how's this new girl gona feel when you tell her? she'll probably get the impression that she's just another link in the chain and won't take you seriously.

once I find the right girl I will calm down for sure. I am the kind of guy that knows what he wants right away, and goes for it. I can't be anymore serious then that. It's funny that you have to wait for her to come along and be a virgin till she does otherwise I am an asshole. I am honest and if she wanted to know if I was with someone right before we hooked up I would be straight up... imagine that... but really when you meet someone and you both feel that amazing feeling it doesnt matter who you have been with or any of that all that matters is where you go from there... lol i am such a hopless romantic at heart