Thinking about breaking up whatever we have because of his weird begaviour?

[Rosielar]

I met a guy four months ago who was interested in seeing me, not sure what his intentions were but since he would always talk me out and introduced me to his friends I thought he was somewhat serious. He was infatuated with me for real. Nothing was wrong except that he initiated everything and he started pointing that out because I could go days without talking to him if he did not. I'm not sure what happened but we started seeing each other less, I was less emotionally engaged but he kept reaching out for me anyway. This one time I felt like we were doing really great, he was so eager about me it sort of scared me then he pulled back and we started going days without talking but he always did something about it. There was some ups and downs like when he joked about having a girlfriend it really put me off and he met up with another new girl once and made me aware of it. I pulled away, he pulled in.. We stopped going out and I started to receive texts where he complains that I never reach out for him, I went a week without talking to him then two and even four just recently until I bumped into him and he asks me over and over why I haven't talked to him at all and what I've been up to, he said he is waiting for me? It's always that constant "I never hear from you" and I tell him I will get back to him but I don't really. He has started to pull more girlfriend jokes even though he does not have one and I don't understand why he does it, he even asked me if I have slept with anyone during the time we haven't talked? Thing is that I had enough when I found out that he lied to me about his current living situation saying that he has no apartment anymore when in fact he just got a new roommate I heard whose a druggie who he does not want me to be talking to.. It's so shady. He lied straight up in my face! Yet he reached out for me again saying that he wants to hear from me but he doesn't intimate anything just text me that and I don't get in touch with him. It feels like a circus and I've considered breaking up whatever we have because I really get confused by his "my girlfriend is waiting for me, just kidding" then he calls me honey or acts like a boyfriend. Also if it's important I've slept with him a couple of times. Help me out??

[solarion]

Help me out??

With what? Frankly I find your behavior to be significantly weirder than his. If you don't care about him then why are you spending time with him? ...why sleep with him? Your narrative portrays you as a semi-willing victim. It's slightly creepy.

[Rosielar]

Semi-willing victim? No! I do care about him but his behaviour pushed me away thinking he might be playing or using me. It's not the way it used to be which I hopefully reflected.

[basilandthyme]

He's the one who needs help. Chasing after you when you can't be arsed calling him back. What a waste of his time!

[solarion]

Semi-willing victim? No! I do care about him but his behaviour pushed me away thinking he might be playing or using me. It's not the way it used to be which I hopefully reflected.

He has started to pull more girlfriend jokes even though he does not have one and I don't understand why he does it, he even asked me if I have slept with anyone during the time we haven't talked?

He thinks YOU are his GF despite your emotional detachment. The GF jokes are to inspire a flicker of emotion from you and the questions about your sexual exploits are likely based on your disinterest in him. The logic goes like this: "If I'm not giving it to her, then someone else is". These are just educated guesses based on typical psychology...it's really not all that complicated and the only thing that I find all that weird about his behavior is that he keeps trying. My guess is that he really cares about you and he's going to get hurt, but he will eventually give up on you.

[Wakeup]

If you do like him then why haven't you called him and asked him to do something with you? (something other then sex)
If you don't like the way he treats you (with what I'm assuming you think is head games) then why don't you just tell him to stop contacting you as you're not looking for the same thing?

What is it you want advice on?

[fearoflove]

Accept mind games. Many people will play them. He is trying to incite jealousy from you when he mentions "his girlfriends". Do you like him and want to be a relationship with him? If you do, then ask to hang out and see if he will move things to the next level. If you don't want to be in a relationship with him and just want things to be casual, then keep on doing what you are doing.