Ya see, Haden this is what I meant in your other thread about "weeding them out before actually committing to them." A guy that won't hold your hand or isn't nice to you in general should be your clue to break up with him and not stay until they break up with you.
You should have kicked his ass to the curb long before he had a chance to make you feel hurt that he wouldn't hold your hand. Get some self-love into yourself, doll and quit being afraid to dump azzholes.
“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” ~Joan Didion