always paying the bill........advice pls?

[valentine]

I am totally in love with this guy however I need some advice. He doesn't have a lot of money and that's not a problem. My concern is that I always seem to be paying the bills. I dont know how to mention my concern to him without it coming out the wrong way. It's my own fault as I have been doing it all along without saying anything. Now it just seems that he doesn't think about it as being odd or anything. At the same time he doesn't offer to pay for at least half. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

[Illusional]

i would be upfront about it. maybe at first, tell him that you don't want him to take things the wrong way, but he is freeloading and not offereing to pay for atleast half of the bills is only putting a burden on you. you're working hard for both of you, but it feels like he's not trying to meet you half way. raverboy

[valentine]

Thanks raverboy. I appreciate your perspective. I am assuming you are a guy. I also suppose at this time that if he takes it the wrong way and gets all bent out of shape then it wasn't meant to be right?

[Illusional]

true...he should be more understand and he should know better than to leach off of you. talk to him asap. raverboy

[valentine]

you know what I did tell him how i felt. He actually asked me out for lunch. You are so kewl. I am truly grateful for your advice raverboy.

[Illusional]

i'm glad that things worked out and he's understanding. raverboy