please help before i lose my girl

[confused-male]

thanks all for the advice

[Junket]

Dude, I'm sorry to say, you need some professional help, some therapy.

What happened to you isn't something the likes of us have much dealin' with.

Go find some professional help, and ask your girlfriend to support you through it.

That's all the advice I have to give.

[vashti]

Yeah, you defintely sound like you need some professional help. I am not sure whether you are gay and supressing it, or just having side effects from the rape.

In the meantime, you need to understand that people of character are not that way because they are *never tempted* to behave badly. They are that way because they *rise above* their temptations. If you want to stop visiting gay sites, then make yourself proud and do it.

[Gigabitch]

You should call a rape crisis line. They might be able to put you in touch with someone who can help you deal with what happened to you.

Sometimes trauma like that can take YEARS to surface, which it sounds like is happening now. Your psyche waits until you're strong enough to deal with something before it lets the monsters out.

They're out. You have to deal with this. You have more to lose than just your girlfriend- people who don't deal with their problems develop complexes.

[GrkScorp]

Dude, I know what you're thinking, and it's WRONG!!!

If you think that gay guys are any better or less worst than women.. it's just not true..

Look.. sure.. women complain, and nag, and then do it some more.. and it seems like it never ends... but they know when to stop.. and they know that they cross the line sometimes arguing about silly things...

But gay guys don't... they never stop.. do you know why?? Because if you're with a gay guy.. THAT MEANS YOU'RE GAY!!! and there is nothing silly to you and HIM about arguing over why you wore his pants or forgot to wash his pink vibrator signed by Elton John! On top of that, how more amazing can the sex be??? Seriously.. I mean.. if you think about it, you are fcuking SH*T!!! That's right, the other side of the food processor!!!

Let me tell you something.. if you really are gay.. this is the time to discover it.. BOMB yourself with gay porn, visit all the sites you want.. until you are certain within the next week or so if you are gay or not... One of two things will happen..

1) You are really gay, and you need to get a new keyboard because your keys are now too sticky..

2) You are disgusted beyond belief from looking at sexual pornography that is not of your own sexual preferance or orientation..

However, the last thing you want to do sit back, and leave this issue alone.. Because you may cut yourself off from gay sites and chats now.. but the more you put it off... even if you are NOT gay.. the thought and curiosity over the IDEA.. will be enough to entice you in exploring your curiosity..

So.. if you want to know.. Go to a gay porn site.. I dunno.. something like tubgirl.c0m is pretty gay.. but you need to find something GAYER than that..



P.S. Keep a bucket next to you before you visit tubgirl.. It makes me barf every time...

[Junket]

Grk...I think the issue goes a bit deeper than just "am I gay?".