I'm a 26 year old virgin and my whole life I've been afraid of intimacy. I have a lot of insecurities about myself and because of them I am afraid to be intimate. Is there anyway I can fix this?
I'm a 26 year old virgin and my whole life I've been afraid of intimacy. I have a lot of insecurities about myself and because of them I am afraid to be intimate. Is there anyway I can fix this?
untill recently i was a virgin too
and i was very insecure...
1 reason was i never had a girlfriend
then i met someone who really loved me and who i really really love
i instantly felt better around her
the first time we really got intimate she gave me a blowjob
and i was really scared, i even asked her afterwards wether my penis wasn't too small ^^
she said i had absolutly nothing to worry about
when we really got to sex i felt bad too, it happend so fast...
but after 5 times i got the hang of it
now she's moaning and all curly when we do it
believe me... that's the greatest boost for your ego i have found after all these years
find yourself a nice girl who you feel comfortable wit, and get in intimate at your own tempo
you'll see what i mean
Can you be more specific about some of your fears?
Sounds like you are shy. Why do you think you are shy? How about some details about your shyness. Are you afraid to fail? I've failed plenty of times, but I learned from my failures and I'm a better person for it. Yeah, I've made some big failures.
I have a long time interest in psychology, specializing in relationship dynamics for 30 years.
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Unless it is some mental issues I would just go for it as hard as it seems, do it once and you feel you can conquer the world
“So it's not gonna be easy, It's going to be really hard, we're gonna have to work at this everyday, but I want to do that because I want you. I want all of you, forever, everyday. You and me... everyday.” <3