My girlfriend dumped me without any reason... and found someelse within 2 weeks... it

[jackcobain]

Hi ladies... i had posted this on broken heart forum... got a bit help... but would like to know and get help from a girls point of view.... pls help

Hello everyone...

This is gonna be a bit long.... but would request to be patient and read this... coz i m in so much pain that i cant explain....

I am 28 years old and i had been working in Dubai.. While i was in Dubai i fell in love with a girl, she was 4 years younger to me and a very nice girl. I then proposed her and we were in a relationship. The more time i spent time with her the more i started falling for her. But when i had met her she had come out of a nasty break up wherein her ex had cheated on their 4 years relationship. As time progressed she on a regular interval (3-4 months) used to tell me tat she is not tat sure about me, which used to prick me a bit and few times i initiated tat we dont see each other then. But she insisted to work it out and i felt very glad about it. I infact did a lot of things for her, like was there for her all the time whenever she felt depressed or whenever she used to recall the ugly incident of her break up wit her ex. I used to literally cancel all my other social outings just to be with her or talk to her without making her realise that i m being selfless. Then recession struck.. my company started cutting staffs to a lot extend and i culdnt survive for long. So i was sacked too but i stayed in Dubai for another 3 months for her and to look for a job as well and utimately found a decent job but didnt get the appointment letter as the new company's MD was out of town and my visa was expiring. She said she was scared and loves me too too much to loose me and she has fallen for me physcally and mentally (SIGH!). I told her that i wuld be coming back soon maybe within a month for my new job but after i reached India my bad luck struck, the new company got sumone else in place of me due to some CEO's influence. Then after a few days she started saying tat long distance never works and we shuld part, i tried to convince her but she said she doesnt want to fall in love again and dont need a boyfriend and wants some time on her own coz it hurts a lot. I got a bit upset and angry as i had lost my job and my dad too lost his job and she is almost ready to leave me. Then I thought i should respect her thoughts and said alrite but i was damn confident that she loved me so much tat we will be together again and its just a rough patch. She kept calling though telling how much she loves me and i m the only real thing happend in her life (Again... SIGH!) so tat built up more confidence in me that she is mine.. infact she had been doing this earlier too when randomly she wuld say tat she is not sure about me and then come back to me immediately but i never took it seriously.. So i decided to look for a good job and then make a good practical and impressive plan to continue my relationship with her. It took me almost 2 weeks to get all these things done and i noticed that she has never tried to contact me in the last 2 weeks so i mailed her asking whats wrong. And then came the thunderbolt... She says she has moved on and she never loved me all this while, she says i was never more than a friend to her and she never missed me at all when i was away and she had multiple crushes too... I was like "WHAT THE ****" ... I became angry, furious, sad, etc. and even desperate to get her back but all what i got is sheer insult. She said i was hounding her and i m not a nice person. We have been with each other for almost 2 years.... I broke down, coz to not love sumbody is exceptable to some extend but giving such a farewell to sumbody who loved you and stood by you in ur dark days is unacceptable. And guess what ... the guy she is seeing now is a doctor and he lives in another country (RIGHT!!! long distance doesnt work)......... and they have never even met each other before. I removed her from my facebook so that i dont see those things "in a relationship" and all the lovey dovey walls... but recently thru one of my friends id (who has her in his friends list) saw her facebook account.... man there is an album of almost 30 pictures where they r hugging smilling and having a good time... and the walls r so romantically filled up... i mean watever she is sharing publically about him she had never even told me about us "personally" It pains man.. so basically after seeing those things i have lost all the self esteem and the future looks dark and unhappy... She was very cruel to me who loved her unconditionally . She kept holding on to me till she found a replacement for herself and almost treated me like shit when i asked her to come back... i know i m totally acting like tat teenage whining girl... but tats how it is...

I am in sheer pain.... dont know wat is it... the problem is i hve come to a conclusion tat i will never find anyone like her... even though it was fake.... i m 28.... and its too late to find sumone again (a real girl ofcourse) and build tat relationship and live with her ever after...... and infact it doesnt seem tat she has got into a rebound relationship.... coz her rebound was me wen her ex cheated on her.... she repaired all the damage while she was wit me... and she now is happy with someone.... she was damn cruel....

I am extremely sorry guys to post this big post... but culdnt help it... i need help... like a lot... dont know how to face all this... i m bit weak to fight all this shit....

[Aniphilia]

I am so sorry! I have feelings of being used to even if I wasnt. She broke your heart and now your left to pick up the pieces while she flaunts her expose all over Facebook. Shes probably a gold digger and when you lost your job she left you. You invested alot of deep caring in her and shes thrown it all away. While you have the capacity to love again she may never know the depths that you will know in your future. And she may never have what she had with you with anyone else. I would bet money on it if I was a gambler. She doesnt have what it takes. Shes a player. If it helps, be mad, sad, and go through all the motions and grieving processes. You will be just fine and use this experience in the next love. Take some time to heal and keep your chin up, you will open yourself up again in the future and when your ready the universe will provide. At least shes far away and cant come knocking on your door. She was cruel and may of not meant everything she said but she really went out of her way to make sure you heard it loud and clear. That may be why she was so cruel.
You are younger than me so dont tell me it is too late to find a woman. And avoid the girls that are fresh out of relationships because they havent healed and you could be putting yourself in danger again. Your heart is big and she couldnt match up with it.
Write lots of letters for yourself so that you can get things out. Never send them to her. She will find herself in a mess soon enough from her actions or she will just never know love like you will.

I hope I was helpful.

[smackie9]

That is what dating and having relationships are all about....a test run before marriage. Relationships will come and go for different reasons. Not everyone you date is "the one" no matter how much time you have invested. When we are in love we tend to ignore the warning signs and we should let go, but instead we cling on for dear life which makes it even worse. Nothing went wrong.....you were just with the wrong person. keep your chin up, this will all pass, and you will find "the one", you just have to have faith in yourself.

[jackcobain]

I am so sorry! I have feelings of being used to even if I wasnt. She broke your heart and now your left to pick up the pieces while she flaunts her expose all over Facebook. Shes probably a gold digger and when you lost your job she left you. You invested alot of deep caring in her and shes thrown it all away. While you have the capacity to love again she may never know the depths that you will know in your future. And she may never have what she had with you with anyone else. I would bet money on it if I was a gambler. She doesnt have what it takes. Shes a player. If it helps, be mad, sad, and go through all the motions and grieving processes. You will be just fine and use this experience in the next love. Take some time to heal and keep your chin up, you will open yourself up again in the future and when your ready the universe will provide. At least shes far away and cant come knocking on your door. She was cruel and may of not meant everything she said but she really went out of her way to make sure you heard it loud and clear. That may be why she was so cruel.
You are younger than me so dont tell me it is too late to find a woman. And avoid the girls that are fresh out of relationships because they havent healed and you could be putting yourself in danger again. Your heart is big and she couldnt match up with it.
Write lots of letters for yourself so that you can get things out. Never send them to her. She will find herself in a mess soon enough from her actions or she will just never know love like you will.

I hope I was helpful.

thank you so much...... yes u were really helpful.... right now its really awful feeling... feels as if my heart has been ripped from my chest.... its been 4-5 months since all this... but still feel the same... but i m not gonna let me suffer this way.... i mean i havent done anything wrong and i m going thru shit and she is enjoying her life.... at the same time i dont curse or wish bad things for her.... its my best friends wedding this week so kinda buzy wit tat (not fully happy hearted though).... as soon as the wedding is over... i m gonna stop beating myself and move on much much stronger way.... i know but those dark memories will keep pouring but fight back.... i guess i will come back more stronger.... thanks again... god bless u

[jackcobain]

That is what dating and having relationships are all about....a test run before marriage. Relationships will come and go for different reasons. Not everyone you date is "the one" no matter how much time you have invested. When we are in love we tend to ignore the warning signs and we should let go, but instead we cling on for dear life which makes it even worse. Nothing went wrong.....you were just with the wrong person. keep your chin up, this will all pass, and you will find "the one", you just have to have faith in yourself.

You are right mate..... i m gonna move on..... the kick on my nuts came unexpected.... anyways... i m gonna be more stronger... god bless u... thanx