young bald guy

[lola2001]

Hi,
<sigh> A guy at the gym that I go to... I don't pay attention to people at the gym because it's not a bar you know. So, he is bald (I do not care about that at all--in fact my first love was bald). Apparently he was interested in me and was/is sensitive about his baldness (he's only 20--he most likely has early baldness and doesn't have any hair at all whereas other guys his age have hair). What he did was get all of his guy friends together and have a friend of his talk to me (he was standing there in the shadow I guess so his head wouldn't be shiny). I am intimidated by large groups of people so when his friend pointed out that all the guys have hair and his friend doesn't, I didn't get it at all. I know I really really hurt his feelings unintentionally and now the people at the gym look at me like "oh my gosh, what's wrong with her". I am thinking of a way to reach out to him but I don't know his or any of his friends' names. I haven't seen him at the gym since and I hate that. I know one guy who may be friends with him but I don't always catch him at the gym. I am thinking of posting a message at the gym (in obvious places) that says something like: get his name and number to me. I don't know how to describe him without further hurting his feelings.
Help!
Lola

[michelle23]

This is normally a sign of too much testosterone. Early baldness, weight gain, excessive body hair as well as an unusually long jaw and high cheek bones. You should avoid these men unless you want to end up with a man who becomes a porn addict/sex addict later in life and cheats on you excessively with prostitutes..

Worst case scenario: he cheats or dies of a heart attack.

[lola2001]

I do not think it is that. He's not a huge guy.

[michelle23]

lol sorry my post sounds a little crazy. I run from men who go bald too young though for that reason.

[HeartIsAching]

This is normally a sign of too much testosterone. Early baldness, weight gain, excessive body hair as well as an unusually long jaw and high cheek bones. You should avoid these men unless you want to end up with a man who becomes a porn addict/sex addict later in life and cheats on you excessively with prostitutes..

Worst case scenario: he cheats or dies of a heart attack.

Thanks for the stereotyping.

Would you say that about someone because of the color of their skin?

[lola2001]

by the way, no need to be so negative or judgmental about people. You don't know a person until you talk to them at length and I think that is what happened in this situation; he didn't get to know me first and realize that I don't like lots of attention or be the center of attention.

[lola2001]

my feelings exactly!

[michelle23]

Thanks for the stereotyping.

Would you say that about someone because of the color of their skin?

Its not a stereotype. Its scientific/biologically. I came across it when I was doing my research on how to avoid a cheat lol. And no skin color is irrelevant. Here is something I just found http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-moral-molecule/201004/five-tests-determine-if-your-partner-will-cheat

[lola2001]

here's the note I wrote:
I don’t care how this looks but I know/feel that I really hurt someone’s feelings. I don’t know his or any of his friends’ names so I’m posting this note around the gym in the hopes of making a friend.

Ralph Waldo Emerson: Always do what you are afraid to do. I prefer one-on-one situations.

Get his name/number to me. I’m always at the gym. If nothing else, don’t ever change. 

Laura
I would really like some input on this!!!

[HeartIsAching]

Baldness being due to high testosterone levels is sometimes true - it is for certain types of baldness. The behavioral crap is stereo-typing.

[michelle23]

well im sorry-I did not mean to stereotype but I do have research to back up my opinion. I didn't just pull it out of thin air. Its not just based on testosterone. There are a few other hormones involved too which are important.

[HeartIsAching]

I read your article. Nowhere does it say any of those are conclusive tests. I'm done with you, have been since you started defending your asinine statement of opinion as fact.

[michelle23]

lol I never said it was FACT. but it is good to know what to avoid if you dont want your heart ripped out of your chest haha. I do believe it but I am not saying that it is 100% true or that all bald men cheat. I never said that

[HeartIsAching]

lol I never said it was FACT. but it is good to know what to avoid if you dont want your heart ripped out of your chest haha. I do believe it but I am not saying that it is 100% true or that all bald men cheat. I never said that

This is normally a sign of too much testosterone. Early baldness, weight gain, excessive body hair as well as an unusually long jaw and high cheek bones. You should avoid these men unless you want to end up with a man who becomes a porn addict/sex addict later in life and cheats on you excessively with prostitutes..

Worst case scenario: he cheats or dies of a heart attack.

Liar .

[michelle23]

haha i wasnt saying it was fact. it was giving a worst case scenario