Not that I care all that much. I figure with time you get to figure out how to work it. I think he was/is putting a lot of pressure on himself with performance. I notice he seems to care more about my O than his. But that's the sign of a good lover, and a not so out of this world first time, seems like it would lead to learning about each other and thus getting groovy with the other stuff. He's awesome everywhere else. And it really is my job to make sure he cums, since he is making such a good show of getting me off.
I'm kind of curious about bondage and spanking. I've never been comfortable enough with a lover to get to asking for stuff. I prefer to be more submissive in bed, but will dominate every once in a while.
But I don't think not getting off in sex is such a big deal. I can cum sometimes in sex, but definitely not all the time. I've learned to appreciate it for it's other qualities, and take getting off from oral or fingering, if I can't cum from sex. Any tips for girls that help you to cum during sex?