Hello from San Francisco

[SFmale]

Hello to the Forum!
I have been searching for some advice on a few relationship problems Ive been having for a while now, and after reading a lot of people on this forum get it off thier chest and get so many responses i thought id register and post my problems. Funny to me that although Ive seen my same question asked and answered over again, its still hard to talk about even anonymously.

Like many others out there I too am in a committed LTR and am having problems dealing with infidelity, lusting after other women, and just not being sure if the one Im with is "THE ONE". We've been together for years and in general we get along real good, but occasionally I wonder to myself... "Is she really the one?" Am I missing out on meeting other women, other experiences?

And I realize there really is no way to know for sure. I mean, there is no numerical test we can preform to know the answer for certain. So how do you know when your doubts are just normal/typical feelings that are probably similar to feelings felt by others in happily committed relationships, or that those feelings/thoughts have gone too far?

I already feel a bit better.

[Sonrisa]

welcome, i am sure the anal thread made you wanna join, right?

[SFmale]

Hahahha. Nope, but its certainly an entertaining read.

[MeowMeow]

Welcome!
I know what you mean about being in a long term relationship and still wondering if the he/she is 'the one'.
Is it our own crave for some excitement calling or what?

I've enjoyed browsing this site and found a number of responses useful, some of them even helped answering my questions. I couldn't help noticing that while some ppl were still struggling with their own love dilemma, they still managed to give a very sensible answer to others' love problems.

If we look at our relationship problem as if it weren't your problem, we'd see right through it. Easier said than done, i know.

Have a nice day.

[Illusional]

oh another person that i need to talk to... ok. so i'm going up to sf in dec... do you have any suggestions on hotels?? i'm planning on staying around the wharf area or around japantown.

raverboy

[starbuck]

Welcome to LF. Keep posting and hopefully you can gather some good insight on the situation you're describing above. There are some really smart folks here.

Hope we don't disappoint!

[Petit Papillon]

oh another person that i need to talk to... ok. so i'm going up to sf in dec... do you have any suggestions on hotels?? i'm planning on staying around the wharf area or around japantown.

raverboy

If You're going to San Francisco , be sure to wear some flowers in Your hair

[SFmale]

where to stay really depends on your budget and what you want to do at night. SF is a neat city during the day, but you'd really miss what makes SF tick if you miss out on nightlife. what are your plans for the trip?

[Sonrisa]

his plans are to get wasted.

[Illusional]

where to stay really depends on your budget and what you want to do at night. SF is a neat city during the day, but you'd really miss what makes SF tick if you miss out on nightlife. what are your plans for the trip?

i'm planning on hitting up monterey aquarium and downtown SF side. actually i was thinking of hitting up japantown but i didn't hear anything good about it.

also i'll probably stay either on the wharf or around there because i don't want to deal with parking. so what are your picks for the night life... and for the record, i am an alcoholic. i love bars, but hate clubs. however, on vacation, i'm always down for anything that includes partying.

If You're going to San Francisco , be sure to wear some flowers in Your hair

don't mistake me for mr fufu juju.

raverboy

[Petit Papillon]

don't mistake me for mr fufu juju.

raverboy

Do You have something against Mr Juju?

[SFmale]

Phoenix Hotel
601 Eddy Street, San Francisco, CA 94109

its in a REALLY crappy neighborhood (the heart of the Tenderloin), but the place is really fun. Loud music is played well into the evening in the courtyard. They hosted the "Icer Air" skiier and snowboard conestants the last few years and threw a really amazing tiki style party for industry people. Not a place to stay if you are planning on sleeping. Its also attached to Bambuddha lounge which is pretty trendy and open till 2am.

[Illusional]

that was the name of the street i was told to avoid.. tenderloin. my uncle said that it was kinda creepy at night and being that i will take my sister along with my friends, i doubt that she'll want to cruise without me anywhere.

ok so i'm going up during dec right after xmas.. .does anything good happen there in SF? i mean activities wise..

raverboy

[tooxshort]

... hit up the Mission for bars/lounges ... or Union Street/Lombard area ... that way you can just barhop between yuppy/regular bars ...

[Lite]

oh another person that i need to talk to... ok. so i'm going up to sf in dec... do you have any suggestions on hotels?? i'm planning on staying around the wharf area or around japantown.

raverboy

The Best Western near the Wharf was pretty decent. But I haven't stayed there since 2000 or so. Walking distance to the wharf.