Says he needs space .. and time :(

[California Girl]

Hi- well my bf of 4 years broke up with me recently about 4 days ago- we are still living in the same house although I am moving out Sat- . It has been so hard, he has been cold, distant and unaffectionate.... .. I asked him today if this "break up" was temporary or was it forever.. he just gave me this look like......and said; Right now I need time and some space- i HAVE to have that.... he says we are friends--- doesnt feel like it... Do es anyone think he will comea round?? BTW - this is the 2nd time he broke up with me -- last time was June 04, we got back together after about 2 months....

So- soemone please give me some insight we were SUCH good friends, loversa and every other way too

Feeling sad, pissed and depressed
Ca girl

[diablo robotico]

Was there anything that precipitated this? Did you guys have a big fight or something? Or did it come out of the blue? Why did you guys break up the last time? What was your relationship like before he told you he wanted to break up with you? Need more info!

[California Girl]

Was there anything that precipitated this? Did you guys have a big fight or something? Or did it come out of the blue? Why did you guys break up the last time? What was your relationship like before he told you he wanted to break up with you? Need more info!

Hi- well to make a long story short- he recently went trhough drug rehab to get off some presc. meds. it was AWFUL- i took care of him for about 4 motnhs- now he is clean, and off them. well he said that he cannot be in a relationship and he needs time and space.... he wont tell me if we are evergoing to get back together- and it he wont talk to me about it either- to make it worse for me- we had sex today .... and he said you broke the rules -i sid well you did too...

he says we are friends- but it does not seem like it- he says he cares about me- and always will-- I am scared, hurt, nervous and want to know if there is a chance for us.. HELP

[Glenn]

I don't think there is anything you could do... give him the space and time he needs. You should move on too. Don't think "what if" this or that. He'll want you back when he starts to regret but don't wait for that. When the time comes you'll know what to do. The earlie r you convince yourself to move on the earlier you free yourself from misery. I have not been through the same scenario as you but i had my servings of broken hearts too. Time heals everything, move on....

[ibby]

Cali-girl relationships suck. You start out on a good note but it always end on a bad note. You were there for him through the worst. Staying by his side through his addiction, still he leaves. I wouldn't waste any more time on him, you need to get away and let him deal with his own life issues instead of you taken care of his problems for him. Trust me, he's a user not a lover.

Friends?

[diablo robotico]

Well, it's hard to know what's going on in his head now. I'm sure the drug rehab must've taken a lot out of him, and he's probably still trying to figure himself out.

In the meantime, I agree with everyone else. There's nothing really you can do except take care of yourself. Try to move on. I know how hard that is, but it's best for you.

[California Girl]

thanks alot everyone I really appreciate it- Today he I aske dhim if was going to visit me at my new place... OBVIOUSLY I was at a place of insecurity BIG time..and he was like I NEED space and time - I dont know. SO I left crying and he called me liek 20 minutes later and said : OF course I am goign to visit you and see how you are etc, I am not dumping you.. I need to continuing doign what I am doing,, I have to,,, meaning needs space from us... I am so hurt- I love him SO much and I KNOW he loves me too
Ca girl

[diablo robotico]

Nothing for you to do but give him his space. I know it sounds cold that he is being this way, but I think you need to put yourself in his head, try to understand where he's coming from. He's just come out of drug rehab and he's probably learned a lot about himself there. He needs time.

But yeah, it does suck. I'm sorry!! Take your time grieving. Try to move on, but it wouldn't hurt in this instance to keep in contact. Who knows? Just don't put yourself in a situation that you'd be hurt again.