the magic of making up??

[dre760]

Does this work?

Any success stories from ppl from this site?

[lahnnabell]

Only if both people really want it. Usually "making up" means people get insecure and lonely. Instead of wanting to really work on the issues that caused the break-up in the first place, they are looking for a band-aid to heal the sadness they feel.

I've never been able to reconcile a break-up successfully. I've tried quite a few times with a couple of different boyfriends. It was too far gone though. By the time we had broken up the original affection and feelings that had held us together had faded and been replaced by hurt and resentment. There's no going back after that.

[lhn]

Too true LB... too true

[ecojeanne]

actually that site helped me break up by one of the first questions it asked: list all the activities you did together: none.....fecker

[Carmen]

Don't waste your money

[Coco]

Yep. True Lahnna. I'm about to end up doing the same thing. I feel like calling him right now and just telling him to come home.

[TimeToGrowUp]

Yep. True Lahnna. I'm about to end up doing the same thing. I feel like calling him right now and just telling him to come home.

Remember when you told me to stop being a wuss and stop whining about my ex-?

I'm just messin' with ya.

[Lite]

I made up with an ex, and eventually married her. I couldn't be happier.

That having been said, this involved her utterly mind****ing me, cheating on me, leaving me, aborting our child, and her going through years of therapy before apologizing to me profusely for being a vicious soulsucking bitch. (Her words, not mine.)

And, to this day I fight periodic feelings of mistrust.

Making it work is the extreme exception to the rule, and unless you're willing to put a lot of effort into fixing yourself and your personal issues that caused the breakup in the first place... You're not the exception. And even then, you most likely will figure out that you don't want to be dating that person anyway.

[amki]

Lite said:

Making it work is the extreme exception to the rule, and unless you're willing to put a lot of effort into fixing yourself and your personal issues that caused the breakup in the first place...

And, unless your partner is willing to do that, too. That's what life is all about...effort.

[cmacattack1]

And that's both wanting to work towards bettering themselves apart AND wanting to work at making a new, better relationship afterwards.The reason why it's not very likely and never happens is because the two never line up exactly (while the thoughts of hurt and mistrust may still linger). It's sad but it is what it is.