its been 3 lonely years but im still determined...

[heavymetalkid]

this was about a year ago, i was 17 and she was 16. it was around christmas and one night i said i didnt need my camera anymore so i said ill walk to her house to give it to her (longer story about the camera with her but nevermind). we talked on her porch for a while before i gave it to her so i can go home and i said "i need to tell you something, ive liked you soo much for soo long I dont..."

she teared up for a moment and said "aww, John (i forgot word for word but you get it)" then i didnt know what to say so it was quiet for like 15 seconds and we just dropped it!?!?

later on on the phone she said it wasnt akward or anything and she views me like a bro (shes been openly saying that for quite a while now).

nowadays we dont talk because she mainly talked to my brother but im still feeling good/embarrassed about that occurance because i still have strong feelings for her.

shes in a relationship and has a whole new circle of friends and dont know what to do about this because im still determined to be with her. i dont know what to do.


i got rid of my other post.

[GPLOC]

Okay dude, she is talking to your brother, rather than you. And says she sees you like 'a brother'. I'm sorry man, but you are firmly in the friend zone. It's not hard to get out of though. Get some sweet clothes and go out with the hottest chick you can. If she asks why you're with someone else, it's because 'you get the picture and it was time to move on'. And do just that mate. Move on. Concentrate on your relationship, and you might find that what you want, isn't always the thing that ends up making you happy.

[GPLOC]

feelings are hard at 18. but now is the time to become who you want to be man. Forget the sensitive stuff. Forget the pining for someone for three years. Forget who you are today man, and be big, strong and able tomorrow. You don't need the weight of her on your shoulders.

[GPLOC]

I was in your shoes, and the girl I wanted always dropped me for someone else but I never got angry, I never lost touch, and I was always there for her. But at the end of the day, she ended up with a kid and nobody but herself, a bad reputation and she apologized to me for all the times she made me feel shit. And I realised that I didn't even want her anymore. It was just the idea of getting her that I liked. But when I saw her for what she really is, and not just what I wanted her to be, I didn't want her. And I wasted a long time that I could have been out with friends, happy, having fun, being myself, instead of some F'd up teenager in baggy jeans with too many feelings that weren't even there.

[bulrush]

An adult knows when to fight harder for someone, and when to quit. It's time to quit. She is not into you. You would be happier if you found someone else who was into you.

[HeartIsAching]

Yeah, you're friend-zoned. You're also hosed. It's time for you to move on.