Am I just being too paranoid?

[achintha]

Oki, before i ask the question i think i should tell you guys a bit about myself. I'm not stupid, I'm well educated, but I'm very gullible. I've had really bad relationships in the past and first couple just ended me bing completely used. My last relationship ended 5 months ago.
Now I've met this girl on the net... it's been about couple of weeks and we talk to each other every night and text each other all the time. We had this discussion and decided that we should call ourselves bf and gf. I was invited over to her place for her b'day (it was just her parents and me). Her parents also seems to like me and that's all good.
However since we've met, she still has her online dating profile open and visit it regularly. I don't really want to ask her why she has her profile still up, because I feel like it's a violation of her privacy and I might come a cross as a stalker... I don't know... I've closed mine after we decided that we were a couple. Also she gets this text messages from guys all the time and I'm not sure what are they are about... I think she is a nice girl and I'm really falling for her. However i'm just worried that i might be ended up like I have been in the past.
Do you think I'm just being too paranoid?

Thanks

[Gratedwasabi]

Yes. How do you know the texts are from guys?

[achintha]

from their contact photos and names, sometimes she checks her phone when we are together? but I don't know what they are about

[Gratedwasabi]

You're paranoid. And don't post in multiple areas, it's just ****ing annoying.

[Wakeup]

So let me get this straight.. You've met her ONCE and you declare each other bf/gf. Uhm... you're moving way to fast here. I think you should ask her if you're exclusive first off and second off you need to dial it back a bit. I'd NEVER tell someone that I'd be their gf after one bloody date. You don't even know each other in the foggiest.
First find out if you're dating exclusively and then if she says "yes" then ask her why she still has her dating profile as active. Keep in mind that one date and a few emails and text messages does not a relationship make.

[tremolo]

I'm confused about how long you've actually been seeing each other, in person, but regardless - I was on several dating websites and remained on them after I met my last boyfriend and was exclusively dating him. I simply couldn't remember my password to the sites, which I had stopped using before I met him anyway, and was too lazy to go to the effort of retrieving the passwords and closing my profiles. Eventually I did, but it took a number of months. I guess if I had met my boyfriend on the site, that would be different, but in my case, I simply forgot, and it might have looked quite dodgy to my boyfriend if he had ever found out. Nothing shady was going on, however.