Sex Slump

[nsantoro]

Hello everyone,
My fiance and I have been dating for over a year and a half. When we first started dating, we would have sex all the time. Lately, he has been a little bit difficult to have sex but when the moment is right, he just doesn't want to. Hes 24 and does suffer from occasional ED, but it has been less frequent in the last few months but I was wondering if him telling me that "he's not in the mood" is a hormone thing, or if it's me doing something. We do spend a lot of time together and Im wondering if he could possibly just feel it is not a necessity. I may be overacting but I am curious.

[bluesummer]

The best thing you can do in this situation is just talk to him about it. Let him know that it upsets or concerns you (just don't get overemotional about it or he might shut down and refuse to discuss it). Don't assume it's you.

Also keep in mind you are past the 'honeymoon period'.......sex is almost never as frequent after a year or two of dating. Realize that. One of my close friends found that she and her husband did it constantly for the first year or so that they were together, and now they've had to reach a two-times-a-week compromise for her sake, because his sex drive dropped off the radar. It's not because he's not attracted to her either, he is proud to admit he has a hot wife. I think it's part familiarity, and part fatigue in his case. So get to the root of it......maybe you guys will have to come to a compromise as well.

[Gigabitch]

Do some research about ED and come to your own conclusions about a guy that young that experiences this.

[vashti]

24, and already having problems with erectile dysfunction? He should see a physician. This could be a matter of low testosterone, or maybe even a more serious problem. (is he diabetic or hypertensive that you know of? Perhaps taking medications such as antidepressants?) Conversely, a lot of young males have this problem when they have problems with pornography. In any case, if this is a biological problem, I would really give a lot of thought to how important sex is to you. A man's sex drive decreases with age, so things will not get better - they will only get worse. To be honest, I think you are too young to give up a healthy sex life.

[nsantoro]

24, and already having problems with erectile dysfunction? He should see a physician. This could be a matter of low testosterone, or maybe even a more serious problem. (is he diabetic or hypertensive that you know of? Perhaps taking medications such as antidepressants?) Conversely, a lot of young males have this problem when they have problems with pornography. In any case, if this is a biological problem, I would really give a lot of thought to how important sex is to you. A man's sex drive decreases with age, so things will not get better - they will only get worse. To be honest, I think you are too young to give up a healthy sex life.

He has been to the doctors about his ED and apparently there is a trend were more and more younger men are having these issues. His testosterone is fine but I am wondering if its a circluation problem. His hair is thiining in the front, (which deals with circulation) and his limbs fall asleep so quicky, like when we go to a movie and he puts his arm around me, 5 minutes later its comletely asleep. I think it may be a circulation problem...what do you guys think?

[Thelovedoctor]

tell the guy to start eating juicy steaks and other types of proteins. I've heard a protein deficiency can lead to similar problems along with having sex too often.

Apparently, a guy need at least 2-3 days rest in between cumming, so if this poor schmuck wants to get his rape stick pumping with love juices again, cut him off sex for two weeks and get protein into him.

[vashti]

He has been to the doctors about his ED and apparently there is a trend were more and more younger men are having these issues. His testosterone is fine but I am wondering if its a circluation problem. His hair is thiining in the front, (which deals with circulation) and his limbs fall asleep so quicky, like when we go to a movie and he puts his arm around me, 5 minutes later its comletely asleep. I think it may be a circulation problem...what do you guys think?

Testosterone being "fine" is kind of a misnomer. There is a range that is considered within normal limits, but your BF may be at the extreme low end. As for the circulation problem, that's why I asked about diabetes and hypertension. They both affect the circulatory system. I don't know that his hair thinning is related, though...

Your boyfriend needs to be more assertive with a doctor about finding a solution. Maybe he should see a urologist.

[Gigabitch]

Apparently, a guy need at least 2-3 days rest in between cumming, ...

Oh, that's bullshit. I get laid almost every day, and my husband is almost 40.

[TheTooya]

Apparently, a guy need at least 2-3 days rest in between cumming, so if this poor schmuck wants to get his rape stick pumping with love juices again, cut him off sex for two weeks and get protein into him.

The hell crack are you talking about there? o.0 I'd say theres an issue going on with the guy or the relationship

Saying guys need several days of rest is a bs. My gf and I were doing it at least once a day for weeks at a time <_<

[Yggdrasil]

Apparently, a guy need at least 2-3 days rest in between cumming

WHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA... what a load of bull.... I'm 45 and 'cum' on average once, sometimes twice a day.... hence, if I wouldn't have sex for 3 days I think I would go nuts. So would my wife.

[Thelovedoctor]

well, apparently there are some doctors that don't think so. I would link you, but apparently I gotta wait 15 posts before I can do so.

2-3 times per week, which is roughly every 2-3 days

So if you're whailing on yourself once a day, it's apparently too much and apparently causes damage to your dick.

like I said, wait two weeks, and you hubby will be practically humping the mattress to get some pussy. if he still goes limp noodle, go see a sex therapist.

[Yggdrasil]

It all depends on your libido bud, not on your doctor haha.

[Lite]

2-3 times per week, which is roughly every 2-3 days

If I wasn't working 12 hours a day I'd have no issue doing it 2-3 times per day if my schedule worked out that way. Unfortunately realistically it just doesn't. I'd be having sex while the dishes needed cleaning, or the laundry washing, and while I love sex I still highly prize clean underwear and socks.