OK.. I've been doing a lot of thinking this past month of being single and I am extremely confused as to what my ex wanted out of me. He made effort with me, spent new years eve with me, met my friends, my family would always come to my house, pick me up etc.. all to cheat on me with an ugly girl and see her behind my back? Not to mention he had kids and didnt even tell me? He wasn't even gettin sex, why was he with me if he was just going to hurt me?
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18-04-09, 03:14 PM #1
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What the hell did he want?
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18-04-09, 03:26 PM #2
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Why would he leave you for someone uglier? She probably was willing to sleep with him. But, what does it matter if he left you for someone uglier?
You could just look at it in the time tried and true manner of: You dodged a bullet, be grateful he turned out to be an ass and left you now instead of later when it'd really hurt you financially and emotionally."Well, then," the Cat went on, "you see a dog growls when it's angry, and wags its tail when it's pleased. Now I growl when I'm pleased, and wag my tail when I'm angry. Therefore I'm mad."
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18-04-09, 03:32 PM #3
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Yeah but I don't understand why he was with me... I was so nice to him, wasn't clingy, questioning his every move.. clearly i should have! But I just don't understand why he would waste his time with me. When we broke up we spoke on the phone afterwards and he said "it was just a casual romance, you know, girlfriend and boyfriend its cute."
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18-04-09, 03:34 PM #4
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Guess what, you probably won't ever get a sense of closure from him.
And no, clearly you shouldn't have. You should have picked a better class of man to date is what you should have done. And it's what you should be working on doing now."Well, then," the Cat went on, "you see a dog growls when it's angry, and wags its tail when it's pleased. Now I growl when I'm pleased, and wag my tail when I'm angry. Therefore I'm mad."
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18-04-09, 10:26 PM #5
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Damnit, I want closure!!
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18-04-09, 11:52 PM #6
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Some people are just slime, there are millions of reasons why someone would want to be selfish, but it doesn't really matter. Just be more cautious when you look for your next partner, spend some time to get to know him.
Don't cry, don't regret and don't blame
Weak find the whip, willing find freedom
Towards the sun, carry your name
In warm hands you are given
Ask the wind for the way
Uncertainty's gone, your path will unravel
Accept all as it is and do not blame
God or the Devil
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19-04-09, 03:10 AM #7
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this is how "I" am... when i get bored with a girl, i look for a new interest. he probably did the same thing.
raverboy...this is just my perspective on the situation...
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19-04-09, 04:12 AM #8
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So find closure yourself. You won't get it from him.
Originally Posted by sweet.jesszxox
"Well, then," the Cat went on, "you see a dog growls when it's angry, and wags its tail when it's pleased. Now I growl when I'm pleased, and wag my tail when I'm angry. Therefore I'm mad."
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19-04-09, 09:24 AM #9
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shouldn't you have the decency then of atleast breaking up with the girl rather than staying with her? Originally Posted by Illusional
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19-04-09, 09:30 AM #10
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I'm always amazed at how amazed people are about the actions of others. LOL.
If he walks, talks, and acts like a turd, guess what?
So. Do you normally waste your precious thoughts on turd, Sweet?Second thoughts can generally be amended with judicious action; injudicious actions can seldom be recovered with second thoughts.
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19-04-09, 09:34 AM #11
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you are so right! Ahhh what am I doing
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19-04-09, 09:36 AM #12
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See you around, Sweet. Come back & tell us about the nice man you meet who smells like roses.
Second thoughts can generally be amended with judicious action; injudicious actions can seldom be recovered with second thoughts.
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19-04-09, 10:12 AM #13
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i do, when i get bored then i move on. Originally Posted by sweet.jesszxox
raverboy...this is just my perspective on the situation...
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19-04-09, 10:40 AM #14
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I want to be as nice as Indi
Don't cry, don't regret and don't blame
Weak find the whip, willing find freedom
Towards the sun, carry your name
In warm hands you are given
Ask the wind for the way
Uncertainty's gone, your path will unravel
Accept all as it is and do not blame
God or the Devil
~Born to Live - Mavrik~
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