well, here it goes--I have been trying not to think about this but it needs to come out--I'm not sure whether this is going to end with some clear question or just be all random thoughts; either way, I would appreciate some comments.
Ok-I've been friends with this guy for about a year--we get together for coffee and chat for hours; he's called me at night and we've been on the phone for over three hours--our conversations have gotten kind of intimate at times: he has told me about his relationships and what kind of a man he is, his disappointments--I've told him about my life (I am married! -- and I think I'm happily so, expect for those rough moments . . .)
Here is where it gets confusing. He has told me many times he would never cheat on anybody and that he is against cheating--(and I'm not into that either)--if *something* were to happen, he would lose all respect for me, which would make me lose a friend--I have never given him any hints of wanting to have sex with him; so why is he sometimes giving me these pieces of information about what an excellent guy he is, and how his ideal woman is like this or that (after telling me that I have those qualities?)
Is he playing me? is he confused? what's going on?