Hey folks, this forum seemed as good a place as any to ask for some advice regarding my particular situation.
So, here's the story, I'll try to keep it small:
I broke up with my girlfriend of three years in January after she had an affair behind my back. Her sleeping around went on for about two weeks before I found out and things ended. So, I guess you could say we didn't quite finish on good terms.
Initially I turned to friends for comfort, but there was one particular mutual friend who I got closer to as a result. She is my ex-girlfriend's best friend but she couldn't believe what had happened and talking to her really helped me get over the relationship.
About a month ago me and this new girl started talking more and started going out to the same places. We found that we had more in common than we thought and there was a physical attraction there as well.
Well, a couple days ago we admitted to each other that we liked each other. Not only is my ex-girlfriend a problem in this scenario, but this girl also has a boyfriend of about two months.
The girl I like says that it would be really tough for anything to happen between us because of her being so close to my ex. In fact as we started to hang around more some people started to say that we should get together. My ex heard about this and told her that she would be uncomfortable with it.
Unfortunately everything just seems too awkward to even contemplate having a relationship with this new girl. But we get on so well and we've told each other that we have feelings for one another.
My question is, is dating an ex-girlfriend's best friend ever OK? Personally I think it should depend on the terms of the breakup. She cheated on me and left me broken hearted. And to top it all off she is now in a relationship with the guy she cheated on me with. I don't think she should have any right to say, "I'd find that uncomfortable, I wouldn't like you to go out with him." Fair enough, if we broke up on good terms then sure, but after everything that has happened? She's moved on now, and I want to as well.
But my ex's best friend, she says that she has to stay her best friend despite what she has done to me and despite what she feels, she can't just go and start dating me.
So what's the general consensus? Is it OK to date my ex's best friend after everything that has happened? Or should I try and leave things be, however hard that is?