Some advice required please

[JD2012]

Hello everyone ,
Looking for some advice but first I suppose I should tell you all about myself for some perspective.

I'm 22 going on 23 from a small town in the west midlands , UK , 6'6 tall , shoulder length dark hair , blue eyes with glasses , not a bad start you may think , but then I'm not exactly what you call in shape , did use to play rugby a lot but have let myself go , the sterotypical spare tire and beer gut have taken form.

I'm not exactly good when it comes to women , in 90% of my attempts to whoo women , I end up being "friend zoned" as my normal procedure if you will is to become friends with someone , good friends , all the time keeping any feelings I may have completly hidden , until I work up the courage to say something this normally has disastrous effects for me , loose the friend , loose the chance of anything more and ultimately feel pretty dire afterwards.

Now I have reached the same sort of situation again , I'm good friends with a young woman my age , who is just great , not only is she way out of my league , she is a good person , I attempt to flirt the best i can which I think is working a little but I'm worried about entering that friend zone again.

I've kinda half asked her out , asked if she would like to take a day trip out somewhere , which she has said yes to , I see this as my one chance to make something of this.

I dont really know what else to say to be honest , just figure I would get it out there.

JD

[Charlie Boy II]

You have already doomed yourself to failure by befriending the girl and "kind of" asking her on a date. You need to be much more direct. You also need to hit the gym. 23 is way too young for a beer gut

[vashti]

Quit being friends with them if you are interested in dating them! Most women know within a couple of minutes whether or not they'd go on a date with you, and you need to establish your romantic interest before being friend-zoned.