Hi all,
I need to apologize in advance if this becomes a long-winded tale. I'll try to be detailed but concise...
So I met a guy while he was in school, long-distance from where I am. We've seen each other a couple times since then, and have been on dates during those times. In between the times we see each other in person, we chat online or on the phone a lot. It feels like a pseudo-relationship.
Here's the dilemma. His last relationship was a very long-term one. We had a talk recently and he told me that since that relationship he told himself that he wanted to date around for a while before getting into something serious. Then he met me. I am looking for something serious and he knows it.
Now he's torn. He wants to date other people, but he also knows he'd be passing up something great with me. (We get along so well and are very compatible with each other.)
So my questions:
1) What's this obsession with dating other people? Just to get more "notches" on his belt? For more relationship experience? Because he thinks a serious relationship isn't fulfilling or exciting?
2) Can I possibly win in this situation? Even if he chooses to get into a relationship with me, will he regret the chance to live the bachelor lifestyle, and thus resent me for it? I'm afraid that if I get what I want, he won't be 100%.
In the end we decided to wait and see where things head when he finishes school and moves back in the summer, but should I even be waiting? Argh, it makes my brain hurt!