Yesterday morning by boyfriend and I got into an argument. He asked me about our sex the night before. I said physically it felt good but emotionally it felt empty. To this he got out of bed and stormed out of the apartment. It' so hard to tell him how I feel because his reaction is to go from 0 to 100. What I told him yesterday morning wasn't anything new, I've told that's how I felt about several times in the past. Every time he reacts the same way. I feel like his only objective in sex is sex. He goes for the breasts, the butt and vagina and really doesn't seem to care about much else. When he came home in the evening he put two handles on our dinner table and turned the kitchen lights off, and turned out some music. I thought it was nice of him to do those things but honestly and told him so but honestly that was the extend of the romance. That evening when we were in bed and I noticed him looking at me and asked him what? he said I was just noticing how pretty the light is on your face. In my mind I thought gosh why is it so hard for him to tell me directly that I am pretty so I asked, "the light is pretty? " He said no you are pretty. Than I asked do you really think that I am pretty? And just like that he was pist again. He jumped out of bed and went to lay on the couch. He told me I shouldn't question him when he tells me something. That it's rude and shows disrespect to question him when he tells me how he feels. I used to date someone that would tell me how he felt constantly. When I questioned him he reassured me. I hate how my current boyfriend just doesn't get romance at ALL! When I cry it's the same reaction...nothing. No emphathy what so ever. The last time we went out to small outdoor evening festival, I began to tear up begun his focus was on everything but me. We just sat on a bench and people watched. There was no flirting what so ever what so ever. It didn't feel like a date at all. When he looked over and saw me crying he reacted by getting pissed and leaving me on the bench on my own. This sounds like very young and immature relationship but we are in our early 30's. I know my boyfriend tries but efforts only scratch the surface of what I need in a relationship. Is it possible for a guy to be so clueless or is it that he just doesn't care and desire me in the ways that I am wanting?