Signs of Improvement
Just to recap... my guy said that he didn't see a possible future and basically seemed to be backing out of the relationship but still wanted to keep a relationship. However, I think he was just losing confidence in himself... especially in response to the hostile environment he now finds himself in.
We talked a little bit more... I sent him an encouraging email... all the while trying to help him feel that he is worthy... and does have much to offer (despite what he may think). He's starting to come around... even had a bit of fun on the webcam... though he was reluctant at first (didn't like how he looked on there)... but after 5 minutes, and a lot of compliments later (honest and straight from the heart compliments)... he had loosed up quite a bit... and put on quite a show (if I do say so myself ).
Everyday I mention something about him that I really like (his personality, his thoughts, his appearance... what he has done recently.. etc), and he really has started to look forward to this. His disposition has become quite a bit more cheery... and though his work is still stressful for him... he says he feels less bothered by it.
I think taking away the stress of worrying about a possible future is really helping him out... since he is so caught up with work right now. He still talks of plans he has... what he would like to do.. and how he wants both of us to share in that. He still hopes for the future... and so I take that as a good sign. I think when he comes home... he'll feel more sure of himself again.
In the meantime... I'll keep giving friendly reminders of what a great guy he is... and how lucky I feel to have him in my life..
"The weakest soul, knowing its own weakness, and believing this truth that strength can only be developed by effort and practice, will, thus believing, at once begin to exert itself, and, adding effort to effort, patience to patience, and strength to strength, will never cease to develop, and will at last grow divinely strong."
- James Allen