accident :/

[Lady24]

Hi everyone I would like to have your advice on this
I have a new boyfriend, have been with him for a month, but this weekend something happened and im not so sure if I still want him in my life, we went to this park and we were using those small 4 wheel motorcyles and I was in a race against my boyfriend and my girl´s friend cousin, then I saw a friend of mine walkin around outside the track so I slowed down and started to talk to her, my boyfriend who was behind me tried to scare me to make me go fast again, so he throwed some water from a bottle to me, when I felt the water on my back I felt something had hit me so I lost control of the byke and fell off the track, fortunately I fell on grass :/ but it was really stupid what he did to me.. and Im so pissed at how he reacted "I cant believe you fell off a 4 WHEEL motorcycle!" sure, if he hadnt done that stupidity I wouldnt have fallen!!

Fortunately the byke got stuck between the track and the grass part so it didnt fall on me, I fell on my left side fortunately my arm didnt broke, its only injured, and I can walk ok

he is being calling now, to apologyze and stuff, but for now I dont want to return his calls, I cant believe he was so carelessly,and i cant believe what he said after I fell.. I could swear it wasnt water what I felt, I felt something painful that hit me, and then felt the water running so in a matter of seconds I thought it was me bleeding..my friends say i should forgive him and stuff that it was something dumb he did but of course didnyt wanna cause that but, I say
I dont know if I want someone that can be that carelessly, and his stupidity is gonna cost me like a month of recovery :/.. today he sent me some flowers but I rejected them..
I told a great guy friend (online friend) about this because he saw me on the web camera with the bandages and stuff and said

that if the the accident had happend to him, he would most likely never forgive the person who had a hand in it. Or at least make him/her really regret it or really make up for it. that I was lucky I did not get hurt worse, that there have been some cases where the vehicle got on top of the person and crushed legs or arms.

everybody says I should give him a second chance, only my mother and my best online friend understand why Im so upset right now, what do you guys think
thanks
Lady

[misombra]

it was an accident, my dear. i'm sure he didn't expect that you would get so hurt over it.

and your "online friend" probably just wants you for himself.

[Tone]

I'd have to see those pictures of you to make a better analysis...

But in all seriousness, sounds like he's a jerk. But not to the point you shouldn't return his phone calls and stuff but I dunno. If I threw water on my g/f and she fell off the bike - I would want to make sure she's okay, it would be my first natural reaction, I certainly wouldn't laugh at her or pick on her... I might make fun of the situation and tease her about it later on after I knew she was alright.. but yeah sounds kinda like a jerkoff.

[NeoSeminole]

You should give him a blow job for ignoring his phone calls and causing more drama. So he threw a little water on you? Big deal. He called you to apologize. He sent you flowers. I think you are overreacting. He didn't know you would fall off your 4-wheel motorcycle. Hell, I didn't know that was even possible unless you jumped off a hill or crashed into a tree.

[COAD]

Like you mentioned, It was an ACCIDENT....
Basically something not done on purpose, I dont think he wanted to hurt you and he is sorry. Put yourself in his shoes, You would want another chance right?

[Lady24]

Thanks for your responses, well yeah your probably right I would like to have another chance if I had done a silly thing like that, my arm is on bandags and I cant move it much, but itsnot broken or anything, and I can walk well

and your "online friend" probably just wants you for himself.

Misombra, why do you say so? I told my online friend this before my bf sent me the flowers, do you still think he is being unfair or harsh towards my bf?
he did even start the email with.."wow"
"wow..if the accident had happened to me.."
anyone else thinks the same? that my online friend is interested in me?

[mini696]

Your overreacting BIGTIME.

I agree with Misombra, your online friend is interested in you.

[shh!]

You sound like the over-dramatic type. A month-long recovery for what? A bruise? Yeah, what your boyfriend did was childish, but if he is really sorry and doesn't have a pattern of this sort of behavior, it would be really punitive to maintain anger over this one incident. Haven't you ever done something stupid and regretted it immediately? Would you really want to be judged forever based on that one incident?

And about your guy friend - he sounds a bit feminine in his response. Is it possible he is gay?

[Lady24]

Your overreacting BIGTIME.

I agree with Misombra, your online friend is interested in you.

mmm im starting to feel guilty about it, but please understand that it will take me a month to fully recover and well as I was in pain all monday and today tuesday well I didnt think well..now I regret I rejected the bouquet
maybe I will call him tomorrow


as for my online friend how can u tell if he is only caring for me or there is a plus interest from his side Im surprised at this you guiys are telling me because he told me once "internet is so androgyn for me, I have never experienced any romance online since people are just text thru a screen"and thats always the discussion I always tell him that IT can happen I mean you can start liking a person online by knowing how he/she thinks, if she or he is fun..all that.. in fact I used to have a crush on him in the past..but as I knew the way he thought about internet stuff that completely broke my heart..


shh wrote:
"You sound like the over-dramatic type. A month-long recovery for what? A bruise?"

actually I cant move my arm its on bandages and Im wearing a cast even if it isnt broken

[Ellynn]

Yes I would be a bit surprised and even pissed( at the moment).....if my bf did that to me. But if he is sincerely sorry and he even went and got you flowers then I really do think it was an accident. Sometimes guys get carried away and kinda play rough....but I wouldn't write him off just yet. Give him another chance. You let him know you are pissed....which is good....... But hes only human and stuff happens.... He can only make it up to you so much....and you shouldn't dwell on that. If you can get past it and forgive him then I say keep it going....

As for your online friend......just sounds like he was concerned. I wouldn't look too far into that.....

I say go with your better instincts and if anything like that happens again....then I would consider dumping him.

My ex once elbowed me really hard in the arm once when we were in bed. Was I pissed at the moment? yes (more surprised really)...but he made it up to me by massaging my arm and apologizing....and playfully calling me a wuss... Did I dump him? no....because I knew he didn't do it purposely and even though I had a bruise....I knew it was an accident.... and well that stuff happens.

[clynn]

Wow. You're totally totally over-reacting. In fact, I think that you should apologize for being so pissy and rejecting the flowers.

As a guy, he is used to playing rougher and so he did, and you don't sound very old so maybe he isn't used to playing with girls as much. Besides that, you kinda sound like as far as girls go as the particulary sensitive and weak type. Which is fine. I'm a girl, but grew up with brothers and so tend to be more comfortable with that kind of play, I guess.

Wow. I guess if it really makes you that mad and you're that pissed off about it then do him a favour and break up with him.

[Ekips]

Give him another chance, if someone paints a painting, is he a painter? If someone bakes one cake, is he a baker? If someone makes one mistake in a relationship, would you dump him/her? But if you blow up just one embassy...all of a sudden your a terrorist. Tsk tsk.

[Ekips]

I know I lacked seriousness, but the choice is really obvious. Forgive him.

[Lloyd95]

it was an accident, my dear. i'm sure he didn't expect that you would get so hurt over it.

and your "online friend" probably just wants you for himself.

Ditto what Misombra said.

oh, and you're waaayyy over-reacting. Personally, if I were your boyfriend, after all the time and his apologies, I'd be done with you. But that's me.

[Late_vamp]

first things first , it was an accident , if you cannot forgive that then you will most probably never get married . Second of all , he wasnt careless, he was just joking, when you joke , are you all serious and so carefull ...? NO , you were in a 4 wheel bike , you falling was probably because you got shook and you jumped out of your seat because you got scared ( girls , come on ) and the force of the bike + you in the air sent you falling off . Then he apologized AND sent you flowers .

Why cant woman appreciate what men do for them nowadays?