Her male bestie contacted me...

[Graham Berkeley]

I dated a girl for about a 1.5 years who had been a friend of mine for almost 2.5. We had a REALLY emotionally charged break up about 2.3 years ago that somehow took 4 months to end. One of us called the other one, tried to make it work, it would for a week or two, the other one got angry and went off the deep end all over again.

It finally ended after one of our cycles where we ran a short laundry list of name calling at each other like a couple of immature high school kids. We even blocked each other on facebook. Looking back I'm embarrassed for the way I acted. She moved on rapidly to one of her guy friends and toted about to our mutual friends how he was the first guy she had been in love with. Who cares? Time to move on. That was about 1.2 years ago.

Just over a year ago I was moving and came across a bunch of old pictures of us. Feeling a little weak at that moment I emailed her a nice simple "how are you?" email not even thinking she would reply. She did pretty quickly and with the same angry gusto she had when we broke up telling me never to contact her again or else there would be consequences. Fine... No problemo...

A month or two after that her male best friend randomly sent me an email asking me a stupid question about Video Games. I don't even play video games. Thinking she was behind it I replied kindly and friendly.

About every 2-3 months he will randomly email me or facebook me random crap asking me how im doing or something to that effect. Yesterday was my birthday and he wrote an email asking me how life was etc etc... I replied kindly again and invited him out for a beer. No reply...

My question: I seriously had almost nothing in common with this guy and didn't really think he liked me... You think my Ex is behind this or am I reading to much into this? Why does it make me feel a little dirty?

[smackie9]

It's your ex putting him up to it. She still acts like a school kid....time to drop it.

[MerryH]

Maybe she is behind it and she wants to find out what you're up to, or maybe that guy thought you were pretty cool, so he's making attempts to remain friendly. But since they are friends, you can just assume that everything you tell him will get back to her, and you can act accordingly.

[SelflessnHumble]

(1) YOU are not over your ex...You allow this bullshit of a connection to keep on dragging its feet intentionally so you can keep the line open.
(2) You haven't either matured enough, or haven't learned the lesson out of being with this girl off and on like a light switch...You aren't in control of your life: you allow life to control you.

All you have to do is: IGNORE the emails dude.
The fact you give substance to petty emails from someone you don't even know tells all of us you are holding on to a glimmer of hope: thinking your ex is behind them!!!!

Get over yourself and the situation: she's gone. Move on.

[Graham Berkeley]

(1) YOU are not over your ex...You allow this bullshit of a connection to keep on dragging its feet intentionally so you can keep the line open.
(2) You haven't either matured enough, or haven't learned the lesson out of being with this girl off and on like a light switch...You aren't in control of your life: you allow life to control you.

All you have to do is: IGNORE the emails dude.
The fact you give substance to petty emails from someone you don't even know tells all of us you are holding on to a glimmer of hope: thinking your ex is behind them!!!!

Get over yourself and the situation: she's gone. Move on.

Actually I reply because I kind of like the guy haha. Ex excluded I wish I could have gotten to know him better. Agreed though. There really is no reason to keep replying.

[SelflessnHumble]

Actually I reply because I kind of like the guy haha. Ex excluded I wish I could have gotten to know him better. Agreed though. There really is no reason to keep replying.

That's different...I mean if you two have a connection that can build a solid friendship then it makes sense: but from
what you posted yourself: there is ZERO friendship established and when you called his bluff to meet for beers: you got *crickets* <----a pretty big tell.

[Graham Berkeley]

That's different...I mean if you two have a connection that can build a solid friendship then it makes sense: but from
what you posted yourself: there is ZERO friendship established and when you called his bluff to meet for beers: you got *crickets* <----a pretty big tell.

If he replies in a day or so and is up for it then I'm game. If I don't hear back till the next time he decides to ping me he gave away his hand... I'm done.

[SuwonSweety]

Seems like it's time you both moved on.