When missing becomes overwhelming

[OhhSoInLove]

I miss him so much I cant stand to see his face or look at a picture. Its at a point I find myself crying uncontrollably as if I was grieving. I miss his calls but hate the sound of his ringtone or his name popping up on the caller id. We've been together for about 2&&half years Im I would do anything for him. Our relationship is a long distance relationship&&sometimes I feel lyk giving up but I never have a reason. When he's home nothing makes me happier. But everytime he leaves I get sick. I want this forever I just don't know how to handle the distance anymore. I was used to it at first but now its like the saying "Too much of anything isn't good for you". We planned a future together the hard part is getting through the next couple years with the least pain possible. I really would do anything possible for my baby, its just hard. When he calls we cant have real conversations because I get so mad at him that he's not here. Sometimes I think Im hurting my relationship more than Im helping myself. I just need so reassurance, some encouragement, something simple.

[Charlie Boy II]

I kind of know what you're going through.

How long are you going to be apart for?

[kirig]

you mean your long-distance relationship ran for 2 and 1/2 years?

[OhhSoInLove]

Yes my long distance relationship ran for 2&&1/2years

But he's suppose to be gone for another 3-4years

[Charlie Boy II]

that's just stupid. How did you even meet this person?

[OhhSoInLove]

We were friends back in high school

[Charlie Boy II]

you're wasting your life.

[Wallace Stevens]

I agree. I think you should find a new person. I'm sure you're a great girl, and that this could work out, but men have strong sexual urges, and he'll eventually turn to someone else in order to fulfill them. It's a matter of time until he cheats.

Also, what could he be doing that takes seven years? French Foreign Legion?

[dpope]

To OhhSoInLove,

Don't listen to Wallace. Perhaps he isn't the type of man that has class, one who can control himself enough to remain loyal to a woman at long distance. Yes, many men are like Wallace and will disappoint, but there are those few--those that are worth waiting for.

My best advice is to really examine the relationship. Is it really something that you want? Do you honestly, without bias, think that he is the one you will, and should, spend your life with?

If so, during the hard times, surround yourself with people you love. Friends, family..even hobbies you enjoy doing..can take your mind off of the distance and allow you to be truly happy. Believe me, I know how deeply you can miss someone--you just have to stay strong and make the best of the circumstances.

-Daniel

[IndiReloaded]

Waiting for someone for that length of time is foolish. You will have waited almost a third of your life for this guy. Or, if you prefer, closer to half of your *thinking* life.

LDRs only work when there is a defined endpoint to the distance. A plan. You haven't got one. You are living off Love Fumes. Sooner or later, one of you is going to go for meater fare.