Originally Posted by
TheEvilJester
He lied to you and you are worried about him being upset with you because his lies upset you? I think you have it completely backwards here, my friend. I don't see how there is ever any excuse to lie to somebody with whom you want any kind of relationship. I guess maybe if you could (if you are comfortable doing so) give examples of some of his lies, that may help us put things in context. There is a big difference depending upon the specifics. For example, a lie like "Oh, I love that TV show" when they actually haven't seen it... That's a stupid lie, but not one I'd consider make or break. However, "I'm 23" when they are actually 33, yeah, that's an example of a huge lie.
So, perhaps the specifics of his lies may clarify, but just the fact that there are several seems like a giant waving red flag if you ask me. And apparently one is bad enough that he is so ashamed of it he refuses to tell you until you are face to face.
So, yeah, bottom line, you have every right to be upset. Honestly, you should have just told him you were upset right off the bat, but you have NOTHING to apologize for due to initially trying to just let it blow over, but then later realizing it really did bother you.
So, I agree with the others. Just tell him the truth. At first you were trying to be okay with it and let it slide, but later the more and more you thought about it, it bothered you and hurt you that he could lie. Relationships have to be built on honesty and trust. If he can lie about so many little things, whose to say he couldn't be lying about bigger things?
If you tell him how you feel, and HE gets upset with YOU, then to be honest my advice would be to tell him to take a hike. Move on and find yourself a REAL man, not an overgrown child who just wants to play games. (That would be my advice, but I have to admit if I were you, my desire would be to cause him grievous bodily harm. I highly recommend NOT taking that action, though, it's just what I'd want to do. LOL!)
Bottom line, HE lied to you. He doesn't have any right to tell you how to feel about that. Now, if you want to try to look past that and give him another chance, then that is your decision. Good for you. If you do, I hope he learns from his mistakes and treats you the way you deserve. If his dishonesty continues, though, I hope you realize that you deserve better than that. Anybody would.
Good luck to you.