well i talked with my b/f one last time friday evening. i remained calm and talked in a low tone, while he got angry and started talking in a high tone. he said that he didn't need to do sh** in the relationship, and that since i seem to mess thing's up if i want it to work than i need to fix it. he said he will not do sh** for me anymore or worry about what i do. i have made my decision to leave, but i am making arrangements. just wanted to inform you all. thanks for the advice again.