Why does he behave this way?

[Kitten858]

My boyfriend is driving me crazy!! We`ve been together for almost a year, in last 7 mon. or so... There is absolutley no FOREPLAY, KISSING, OAL SEX, but yet he loves me???? I have asked, dropped hints, moved his hands, ect. I put on a sexy oufit and played with myself... example... He won`t look at me, and thought I was funny!!!! I try to talk dirty and txt dirty, won`t reply, everything. He won`t give or recieve oral, I get no foreplay, he won`t look at me, or at my XXXX at all, He has made me orgasm once in almost a year, Is it me? He ALWAYS wants me to get the "bunny" out. I am attractive, very clean, or is it him? He keeps asking me to give him a chance to do things right, but he thinks I should orgasm vaginally and thinks i should orgasm in less than a min. and he`s 40 years old? Shouldn`t he know how to be with a woman by now???? We see each other almost everyday!!! What am I doing wrong? Thanks in advance :O)

[swtbttrfly23]

I don't think anything is wrong with you, he sounds kind of like a tool. I understand that he may have a preferance for vaginal sex, but it's not cool when he's neglecting your needs and desires. Be upfront and just say what you want, and if he can't get on board I would ditch him.

[Primo]

He's 40, how old are you?

[Kitten858]

I am 35 years old, we are both divorced with our own children. I just don`t get why he acts this way. He is the greatest guy otherwise, but the sex is just awful. I don`t nag him or hound him at all, just mention somethings here and there and actually had a sit down discussion and told him if things didn`t improve, I was going to have to move on. Thats when he finally some initiative, he realized he was being selfish, but he just doesn`t put anything into it. After 20 some years of sex... Why does he think I should orgasm in a min.?A couple pecks on the lips and a pat on the XXXX? Think too much porn?

[qwertz]

does he watch porn?

Do you tell him what you like and dont like?
encourage him when he is down there? do you give him foreplay/oral?

[Primo]

Just sounds like there's no attraction or chemistry anymore. I don't think that can be fixed, it's probably up to you if you want to deal with it, sounds like he's oblivious or indifferent.

[Gigabitch]

You're wasting you time with a dud. Kick him to the curb and go find a stud.

[Primo]

You're wasting you time with a dud. Kick him to the curb and go find a stud.

GB, crushing hopes 'n dreams everywhere today ! :-D

[Gigabitch]

Hell no! Not crushing- inspiring. My ex-husband was a dud who preferred to drink gallons of beer rather than have sex and be happy. Whenever he finally pulled it together to have sex with me, it wasn't very good.

Now I'm married to a sex fiend. Everyone should be so lucky!