I am upset about my BF's lack of interest in sex and willingness to work on it =(

[lostnconfused22]

Me and my boyfriend have been together for just under a year. We are both in our twenties first 6 months we used to have sex all the time. Our sex life is near nothing. We only have sex in bed and lucky if its once or twice a week. It lasts 10 minutes maybe and very little foreplay. I'm getting frustrated because I love sex and I want to try new things. I have tried to have sex with him in the shower and a couple of other semi public places and he has always turned me down. I also suggest he do me in other positions like doggy but he always sais he's too tired or something. Whenever I try to talk to him about this he just tells me I'm obbsessed with sex and that he just wants to watch tv. Mind you he really wanted me to pick up this chick on the weekend sayin if I picked her up for a threesome he would do anything for me. It didn't end up happening and then we never had sex. If he sees hot chicks on TV or down the street he will make a noice or comment on them. It makes me feel like maybe I am not attractive enough. I keep wondering why he doesnt want to talk about sex with me?? In a healthy relationship you should want to try new things and be able to talk about things you want without being judged but everytime he just totally shrugs me off and acts like im crazy. Maybe there are some other things I can do to try and make things more interesting?? Please help me =(

[Dune]

Sounds like he's not that into you anymore

Usually I would suggest spicing things up in the bedroom, but he seems to be turning that down?? Odd..

Then, if that doesn't work, I'd probably suggest talking about it. But he says you're obsessed with sex?? Odd..

Most likely, his interest in you is waning. Hmm.. How should I say this. Maybe you should do stuff to make yourself attractive again. Exercise? Sexy clothing?
I mean he obviously wants sex. It could be he's dissatisfied/having his expectations too high.

[lostnconfused22]

I definately think I could lose some weight. I am curvy but this has never been an issue for BFs in the past. I know he likes the real fit, skinny types but I have never been like that. I am still the same size as I was when we started dating. I feel him not wanting to have sex with me is definately an attraction thing. But why cant he talk to me about this?? I would rather him tell me.