Confused by my married man 'friend'.

[Kimberley123]

I've met a married man through an online dating site. We chatted for about a month before he told me he was married and was actively looking to have an affair. He doesn't want to leave is wife and I understand that. We met once and it went well. I am sympathetic to his situation and he says it's great that I 'get it'. He emailed me every day and text when he could. We're very close and talk about anything and everything. There is a level of trust in place, although I'm not naive enough to ever fully trust him. He was very keen to have a relationship with me until I showed too much interest and he though I was asking too much of him. I don't think I was. After that he now says that he feels genuine affection for me and doesn't want to hurt me, but he doesn't feel strongly enough to have a romantic relationship with me. He keeps in touch and apologises when he hasn't emailed for a few days. He also says he still wants to meet up for a drink/chat "when the opportunity allows". He still goes on dating sites and chats to other women, but he's been doing that for a couple of years anyway. He said I was the first woman he'd met from a dating site outside of his marriage. I just don't know what his game is and I'm confused because I doubt his reasons for wanting to keep in touch as a friend. Am I being used? We really are 'close' in that we talk openly about everything like friends do, and we both enjoy our friendship. I'm happy with things that way but I don't want to be used. Any advice/oppinions/ideas? Thanks.

[vashti]

He's probably found a woman to have an affair with that he likes better than you, and can't afford to give you any more time. If you don't want to be used, then find a man of your own.

[Wakeup]

I'm happy with things that way but I don't want to be used.

Whoops, too late.. yur used.

[rob1984]

not only were you used. you double posted as well.. which is by far worse then anything. I think you should apologize to everyone here, and watch out for that train