My heart is broken. Needing advice.

[in_love2008]

Hello everyone. I need some advice on a situation.

I met this guy last year and we have been really good friends ever since. We met in school. We are both college students. I am majoring in Psychology, and he is majoring in Organizational Management. In the beginning, everything was going great. After a few weeks of emailing each other, he gave me his phone number and I gave him mine. He lives in Georgia and I live in North Carolina. We found out that we both have a lot in common. We started liking each other and decided to meet up and hang out for a weekend. Everything was going great until recently.

This other guy that I know has a crush on me. He has a girlfriend too. They live a couple of miles from me. I have talked to him a few times, but only as friends. I don't have any kind of feelings for him, whatsoever. His girlfriend is very jealous and does not like him speaking with other women, even if they are just friends. Well, she got mad at me and decided she wanted to threaten me and kept telling me that I needed to find my own boyfriend. I never wanted him in the first place and I told her that. She didn't want to hear it. She kept emailing me, threatening me and calling me names. I told her to stop calling me names and threatening me.

Well she said that she knew the guy that I liked. She claims to be his ex-girlfriend. I didn't want to believe that at first. She said she told him to talk to me and act like he had feelings for me to prove that I was a whore. I'm not a whore. It's not my fault that her boyfriend likes me. So I asked my friend {the one that I like} if he knew her. He said he didn't know her. I told him what she was saying and he said she was a liar. I kept telling myself that she was nothing but a liar and she is trying to ruin my friendship with him just because she is angry with me. So I decided to ignore her. She kept emailing me telling me that she is his ex-girlfriend and she told him to ask me for my address to prove that I am so-called "easy" which I'm not.

I asked my friend a while back for his address because I wanted to send him some flowers to show him how much I care about him. I started falling in love with him and he started falling in love with me. He wrote me the most beautiful email and told me that he found the one he was looking for and wanted to show how much he loved me and my two boys. I thought that was the most beautiful email anyone has ever wrote to me. I started loving him more and more each day. He was supposed to come and be with me next week, until something happened.

I wrote him another email asking him if he knew the girl and if she was telling the truth about knowing him and telling him to be my friend to get information out of me to prove that I was easy. He said NO again. I wrote him an email telling him that I didn't think it was a good idea for him to come and see me because I wanted to sort things out and figure out why this was happening. Deep in my heart, I was confused about him and if he was telling me the truth because she knew things about me that only he knew, unless she was lying.

This girl told me that she told him to ask me for my home address to prove that I give out my information easy. What puzzles me, is the fact that he DID ask me for my address, but never told me why he wanted it. He asked me for it right after I asked him for his so I could send him some roses. That is what bothered me the most, so I guess you can say I began to believe what she was saying. After writing him the email telling him that I didn't think he should come up to see me, he took me off of his friends list on Myspace and stopped talking to me completely. He won't answer my phone calls and he won't email me back. I keep emailing asking him what's wrong and he won't talk to me. I called him on my cell phone one day, and when he answered, I said hi and he hung up on me.

I guess you can say I did not have enough faith in him to believe him. I didn't say he was lying. I was just curious and wanted to know how she knew him and how she knew I gave him my address. That was all. IT's been about four days since he has spoken to me. He won't speak to me at all. He is acting like I don't exist. This started right after I wrote him that email. I realize that I was wrong for writing the email. It hurts me so much. I can't stand it anymore. I am so in love with him. He was the man I have been looking for, for years.

What I would like to know is, do you think she was lying about being his ex-girlfriend? Do you think he was telling me the truth? He even told his mother about me. What man does that if they don't like you? I emailed the girl back and asked her one more time if my friend was her ex-boyfriend and she never replied. I just wanted to know who was lying. I didn't have enough faith in him to believe him and now I think I have lost him. I email him everyday to ask for forgiveness, but he won't answer me. I call him and he won't answer his phone. I don't know what to do. Should I keep trying to talk to him, or should I give him time? Please help. I love him so much. I don't want to lose him. Please help me!

~in_love2008

[Petit Papillon]

Well, it's very tough situation.Everytime when between two people comes a third person it means troubles.I can tell You some advices.Personally I think You should wait few weeks,now he may reacting too emotionally.He may feel hurt ,of course if his feeling were for real.And You should know that next few weeks are going to be very hard to stand.Be brave girl
You can also go to him and try to tell him how much You care.But wait few weeks for that.
And about this girl... She must be stoned or CRAZY in love.Some girls are feeling so inconfident that they are acting like this.And tell her she's a whore,even worst because she's a damn crazy whore

One time my ex received an e-mail from a girl with her naked ( well it was porno) pictures and I've checked his e-mail before him.I asked him one time what is this.He told me he knows the girl but he don't know why she's sent him those pictures.So I've sent her an e-mail from my adress "Stupid bitch" . She never wrote him back again.She didn't ,I've checked it

So girl.Girls can be really stupid.And trust is the most important thing in a relationship.No trust?No love.Of course it's nothing bad to ask.But not 100 times.It's always better to be the good one,belive me.And after winter must come spring.People sometimes need to have their bad moments that they can appreciate the real happiness .

[Gigabitch]

Um, he loves you and your boys? You've met him... how many times?

[in_love2008]

Um, he loves you and your boys? You've met him... how many times?

He loves us because we are really good friends. Not LOVE like that..okay.

[Gigabitch]

I'll ask again: you've met him how many times?

[in_love2008]

I'll say it again, WE MET IN our first year of college. We are still in college. It's right there, in the beginning of my first paragraph clear as day. We attend the same university. I've known him for about two years, but I didn't start liking him until the beginning of this year. This year will make three years we've known eachother.