Needing help BADLY

[CherriBlossomGirl]

Me and this guy have been dating for a while and we've made out a couple of times. The problem is that he almost eats my face! He's a great guy and we've know each other for a long time, but I don't think I can stand to kiss him anymore. When he kisses me, it feels like somone has put a wet plunger on my face. His tongue takes up my whole mouth, so bad that I can barely move mine around.

Should I just deal with it and hope it gets better, or should I talk to him about it or something? I've never dated a bad kisser before, and it really sucks!

[RollingonremZ]

tell him that you dont find his kisses that....enjoyable and how to change

[vashti]

There is no easy way to address this problem. You will have to tell him straight up that he is using too much tongue, and perhaps show him how to do it properly. Give him the opportunity to improve before you dump him.

[CherriBlossomGirl]

Hey, thanks for the advice!

[blue]

it sucks to have a bad kisser. ewwwww i kno whow you feel, unfortunatley for me it has made or broken my dating relationship with someone casue they just dont get it!
How do people end up being bad kissers?

[CherriBlossomGirl]

I don't know! I've known this kid for about 3 years and most of that time he was dating my (now ex) friend. How can you date someone for 2 years and be a bad kisser?!?

[blue]

well if someone dosent tell he poor guy he is going to continue to be a bad kiiser

[Gigabitch]

Gross. Eeew. I'm so sorry you're going through this. I think this is a dealbreaker if he can't be trained somehow (shock collar? Treats?)

Clearly, this guy learned how to kiss by watching porn or reading Hustler, and he actually thinks it's a turn-on to violate your mouth with his tounge.

I hereby nick-name him Scooby and officially feel sorry for you, and your wet face.

[CherriBlossomGirl]

Gross. Eeew. I'm so sorry you're going through this. I think this is a dealbreaker if he can't be trained somehow (shock collar? Treats?)

Clearly, this guy learned how to kiss by watching porn or reading Hustler, and he actually thinks it's a turn-on to violate your mouth with his tounge.

I hereby nick-name him Scooby and officially feel sorry for you, and your wet face.

Ha ha! Yeah, I really have to talk to him about it! I just don't want to make him feel bad.

[Tiay]

I hereby nick-name him Scooby and officially feel sorry for you, and your wet face.

hahaah ^.^

man, that's a tricky situation. If you hurt his feelings too much by telling him, he might loose his confidence. If you don't tell him, you're stuck with it.
So instead of saying "you're a bad kisser", say "y'know, frankly, I like to be kissed this way.", and then show him how you'd like to be kissed. That way you're giving him the opportunity to learn, but at the same time letting him save face.

[CherriBlossomGirl]

Okay, thanks for the advice. How would I go about bringing that up? After kissing or before kissing or what?

[lovesjoyajm]

One of the guys I kissed used waaaaaaaaaaaaaay too much tongue - he was only the second (and last) guy I've made out with but I could tell right away - he started in with the tongue as soon as we started kissing. I tried to just do more with my lips than my tongue, and eventually he did get better. Maybe you should try leading the kiss more yourself, and taking it more slowly - then he might get the idea that you're not exactly down with his face-eating.

[CherriBlossomGirl]

Ha ha, I did that last night! And it worked! I no longer have a problem! He's a great kisser when he's not using too much tongue!