is this normal? (pg-13)

[cnd62107]

hi, i just joined here and i'd like to discuss something that's been on my mind. i've been dating my boyfriend for a little over a year now, and i love him with all my heart. but the past couple of days, i've found myself thinking about one of my exes...sexually. i feel really badly about this. i've never had any doubts or regrets about getting together with my boyfriend, but i've also never experienced these thoughts before. i felt total closure with this ex and never expected or even wanted anything more to do with him. not to mention this ex is now married and has a child, so it's not like he's recently available or anything like that. i just don't know why i'm having these thoughts at all. is this normal or should i be worried? would it be weird or bad to discuss with my bf what i'm missing from that previous relationship (sexually) and maybe he could provide it? or should i just forget it?

my bf is not lacking at all in the bedroom skills area. he's always been my most satisfying partner since the beginning. i don't have any problems at all with our sex life, it's just that the ex i'm talking about used to do a certain thing and i've been thinking about it a lot lately. would it be bad to suggest my boyfriend add this to his repertoire?

[Cain]

No, it wouldn't be bad to suggest it at all. What would be bad would be to mention that your ex used to do it. Just mention it to him... say that you want him to try something. Just keep your ex out of it and he should be fine.

[1averagejoe]

No, it wouldn't be bad to suggest it at all. What would be bad would be to mention that your ex used to do it. Just mention it to him... say that you want him to try something. Just keep your ex out of it and he should be fine.

I agree, there's nothing wrong with making a suggestion. Just never bring up your ex, it only makes things awkward.

[cnd62107]

okay thanks!

[Tone]

Tell us what it is.

[Mish]

hi, i just joined here and i'd like to discuss something that's been on my mind. i've been dating my boyfriend for a little over a year now, and i love him with all my heart. but the past couple of days, i've found myself thinking about one of my exes...sexually. i feel really badly about this. i've never had any doubts or regrets about getting together with my boyfriend, but i've also never experienced these thoughts before. i felt total closure with this ex and never expected or even wanted anything more to do with him. not to mention this ex is now married and has a child, so it's not like he's recently available or anything like that. i just don't know why i'm having these thoughts at all. is this normal or should i be worried? would it be weird or bad to discuss with my bf what i'm missing from that previous relationship (sexually) and maybe he could provide it? or should i just forget it?

Tell him what you're missing without mentioning the previous relationship.

It's okay to have occosional thoughts about exs (I think most of us have that). Just keep them to yourself.