How to break it to future boyfriend that I'm a Christian and want to stay a virgin...

[smileyface]

I'm a very very very religious Christian girl and I'm single and have never had a boyfriend. I know that a lot of guys expect sex while in a relationship but I'm a Christian and believe sex should be saved for marriage because it's not fair to the man you commit yourself to for the rest of your life and it's a SIN! I don't know how I'm going to tell future boyfriends that without them breaking up with me or them thinking I'm saying that I want to be a virgin until marriage so they'll marry me immediately because I wanna be married. I just want a man who'll respect my wishes and still be with me. Any advice?

[smackie9]

You must date a very very Christian guy that has the same values. Good luck trying to convince a horny guy that has had sex from his past GFs that he won't be getting any....it's not going to work hun.

[girl68]

Speak openly about your religion, I guess. And don't be judgmental when most guys will leave because of this.

[Boisdevie]

1. Find a man who has the same values as you.
2. Get married.
3. Don't be surprised when you realise that you're not sexually compatible with him.
4. Get divorced.

[sweetkissesforu]

Date like minded guys and anything that is good is worth waiting for

[justcheckin]

My girlfriend is like you. All I can say is that honestly if the guy cares enough about you he will respect your wishes. Who knows, you might even change your mind. But either way, if the guy cannot accept that fact about you, he shouldn't be with you in the first place. Things will always happen naturally with trust

[smackie9]

1. Find a man who has the same values as you.
2. Get married.
3. Don't be surprised when you realise that you're not sexually compatible with him.
4. Get divorced.

I so agree. I'm sorry but sexual compatibility is a crucial part to longevity to a marriage. I see a future of you in your 40's not liking sex because it sucked so bad, you end up not wanting it, husband cheats, it's so over. I believe in God but the Christian rules are for the shit pile. It leads to confusion, frustration, GUILT beyond believe, denying you true pleasure and satisfaction. Sex is just sex...it's not a golden chalice to behold on a holy pedestal.

[SelflessnHumble]

I'm a very very very religious Christian girl and I'm single and have never had a boyfriend. I know that a lot of guys expect sex while in a relationship but I'm a Christian and believe sex should be saved for marriage because it's not fair to the man you commit yourself to for the rest of your life and it's a SIN! I don't know how I'm going to tell future boyfriends that without them breaking up with me or them thinking I'm saying that I want to be a virgin until marriage so they'll marry me immediately because I wanna be married. I just want a man who'll respect my wishes and still be with me. Any advice?

Any advice...sure.

You have standards and KNOW what you want.
THIS to a man makes you dangerous to most of em out there because
most men use sex to hold power over a woman...

Since you have your own priorities?
Stick to your guns and go to church/conventions that will have like minded people like
you who also feel as you do.

One thing you cannot do is to EXPECT a man to change how
they are or feel just for your list of priorities. Life doesn't work that way.

You also cannot act naive enough (as you seem to be) and
tell every man you meet to respect your abstinent stance on premarital sex
without running into road blocks or resistance.

Since you are very religious all you have to do is do what Jesus did.
Stick to your guns and what you feel is right regardless of the consequence.
If a guy doesn't want to respect you/your wishes he isn't the right one for you period.

[Lipp]

"Hey, I'm christian and don't want to have sex before marriage"

If he agrees, it's all good, if he disagrees, he's not what you're looking for.

Why would you make it any more complicated than that?

[sookie6]

It's very simple: pick someone among the Christian crowd! Why did tou not think of that?

plus why anticipate on such a trivial issue..there are so many things that you should think about when falling in love or picking a partner for life, virginity is not even an issue. Stop obsessing over this.