Should I contact her?

[Beornz]

On Myspace, I check on my ex-girlfriend once or twice a month to see if she's doing well. Then, I saw her status last week that she was scared so I decided to messaged her. FYI, we haven't talked for almost four months now. I asked her if everything was okay, she said it's nothing for anyone to worry about. I told her I just wanted to check up on her. Her response is that I don't need to check on her. I ended it with, "As you wish." A few days later, I found out that her aunt was hospitalized because she's dying from cancer. So I'm in a dilemma. Should I ignore what she wants and check up on her about her aunt anyway? Or should I just dismiss any feelings I have for her? Another question, should I wish her happy birthday next month?

Some information, we dated for three and half years. I was the one that broke up with her (and then tried to get back with her) and she never returned any of my Myspace messages (until now) before because we're no longer friends. We have been separated for ten months.

Let me know you girls think.

Thanks

[phresh]

Well I'm no girl but my input on thos would be that you should be there to comfort her no matter how much she pushes you away. I think she's only saying that to you I because she doesn't want you troubled over this. Without knowing what type Of person she is there really isn't much to say. My. Advice is for you to keep checking on her unless she's seeing sonekbe then let him take care of that part. Regardless dealing with cancer is scary so give her some comfort as she won't mind. That's what i think keep us updated!!

[FullofSighs]

Yeah, comfort her to the best of your ability!!! She may push you away, but that might be just because you two broke up and she doesn't want to drag you into anything.

And another thing, you didn't try to get back with her through a myspace message did you? Cause if you did, that really doesnt show a lot of respect towards her, shows that your scared to be around her, or talk to her up front. And who wants a boyfriend like that?

[Gigabitch]

She knows where to find you if she wants to talk to you.

Now stop e-stalking her.

[Beornz]

She knows where to find you if she wants to talk to you.

Now stop e-stalking her.

You are right. Should I contact her on her birthday? Just to wish her one? I don't really want to find any excuses to call her but I feel like I should wish her a happy birthday that is coming up next month. Just to be nice.

[BackUpOrGetStng]

If you think it's "just to be nice", you are selling yourself a bold-faced lie.

[jayne]

You dumped her and that would have hurt. If she's still getting over you then to contact her because you think she needs comforting is a little selfish on your part. I mean you don't want to give her false hope, y'know she might be thinking that your there to stay and in the long run that's just prolonging her pain.

She has friends and family to do the comforting. Your just stalking her. It's time to let her move on.