Look, I've always been a relationship guy. For the past 6 years of my life I have always been tied up with a girl. From 16-18 yrs of age I was with one girl, and then from 18-22 with another girl. So here I am in my early twenties, totally new to this being single thing and I am admittedly a rookie. lol.
So there's this girl I work with who I'm really into. She's very funny, we have great conversations, and we flirt a lot. Unfortunately this flirting and getting along is not consistent at all due to fluctuations in her attitude. I can be at work one day and we will be getting along so fantastically, and then I come in the next day and she is totally cold and downright mean.
For example, we were at work on a Friday flirting, laughing, holding hands and being very touchy-feely with each other. The whole day we were enjoying each other's company and no incident occurred to spoil this.
Then I come into work the next Sunday and see her for the first time since that Friday -- and WOW what a difference. I mean a complete 180. She was cold, avoided eye contact, and when I asked her what's wrong she downright told me to leave her alone. I asked her if I did something that pissed her off and she just rolled her eyes. I had no idea what to make of it so I just walked away. I kept a smile on my face the rest of the day and carried on my business because I really didn't know what else to do.
I talked to my friends who are more experienced with women and the "games" they play and they all told me that females love the attention they get when they start acting cold towards a guy that's into them. According to my friends, women enjoy seeing guys affected by these 180 shifts in attitude, and the best thing to do is to just play it cool, keep a smile on your face, and carry on with your business. Is there any validity to this? And if so, why are girls like that?!?!
I mean, wouldn't it be so much better to just be straight up and honest with feelings? Why play this cat and mouse game where I must pursue and act a certain way in order to suit mood shifts in the girl I'm interested in? I know not all women are this way, but the one I'm interested in is, and many other girls seem to be like this too. Where is the logic, reasoning, and rationale behind this type of female behavior? If this particular coworker is into me, why not just act like it on a consistent basis? Why be so flirty one day and then so mean and cold the next?
In your wise opinions, how should I react to such cold behavior from this female coworker of mine? Is this "play it cool" advice my friends gave me a good idea? Any opinions would be appreciated!