Ladies.. what would you do?

[nebulachic]

My b/f kept reminding me for about a week about dinner plans he had with a male friend of his last night at 6:00PM. I called his cell around 10:30 thinking he might be home by then. He didn't pick up. I tried him about every 40 minutes at his cell and home until 2:00AM. He never picked up.

I called him this morning at 6:30 (something I've never done). He said he was in his driveway about to head out to work. I asked if he had gotten any of my calls last night. He said no and that he had gotten really drunk and was really hung over (he didn't sound hung over at all). All of a sudden he said he was going back into the house and decided he needed a few more hours of sleep before going to work (he's self-employed). Then he said something about movers coming at 8:00 to deliver some furniture (so why was he in his driveway about to go to work????)

I asked him what time he got home. He said 1:00AM. I told him I had called him at 2:00AM. He said "My cell phone was probably off by then". I said "It didn't ring as if it was in off mode. I called your home phone then too". He said "Wow.. and I didn't even wake up! I must have been really out of it" (his home phone is VERY loud). Then he sort of changed the story and said he was at his friends house sleeping until 1:00 and drove home after that. He kept saying he needed to go to sleep and he would call me later to talk about it.

It is very strange for him not to pickup by at least a second call let alone 3, 4, 5....

Plus the way he kept "reminding" me about his plans the week before was weird. When the same friend called him a few weeks ago I heard my b/f say to him "Mondays and Wednesdays? Sounds like fun." He never told me what they were talking about -- which is unusual too.. he usually relays stuff like that if I'm there especially if it is about something fun.

He called and left a message around lunchtime today. Now he added he thinks he was food poisoned last night on top of being drunk. He said he did have his phone on him last night and was just being a bad boy. :roll eyes:

[vashti]

Dump him...

[jurupa]

Dump him...

Ditto. The guy can't keep his story straight for 5 minutes it seems. Unless he has A.D.D.

[Junket]

You know what?

You deserve to be miserable with this guy.

Now stop bitchin' before I ban you.

[Venacava]

I don't know why everyones so suspicious of him. Do you know what it's like to have someone persistantly calling like that? He probably lies to have time away from you.
But, I would break up with him - do both of yourselves a favour.

[nebulachic]

I'm in the final leg of this thing, Frasbee.

He asked me for his forgiveness for not picking up the other night and said he couldn't talk to me because he was feeling so badly (although I'm sure it was also partly because he didn't want to get into anything with me about us). We got into a pretty deep conversation shortly after. He told me last night he does want to be with me and give this thing a real try now that he's divorced but wants reassurance I am not going to leave him at social events anymore.

(Background: he told me 6 months ago when I asked about a future together that he wasn't sure how he was going to feel about us once he was divorced. I have been on edge since and at social events it seems to escalate for me and I sometimes leave - with or without telling him - when I think he seems interested in someone else)

He told me last night he needs reassurance from me this will not happen anymore in order to continue seeing me. I found I could't really answer him. We decided to give it a few days and let the conversation sink in and talk in person about it soon and see if I can give him reassurance about it.

[Gigabitch]

Neb, listen. You don't have to wait for the entire thing to go to shit to break up with him. Don't you want to salvage some sort of self-respect? Break up with him before he does something truly unforgivable.

Have you ever been burned really badly by a guy? Do you remember that feeling of total humiliation and misery? You can actually avoid most of that if you'll just WAKE UP AND SMELL THE COFFEE. You and your boyfriend are not going to be together forever. I think you know that. Now you have to decide HOW it's going to go down, because the way it's going, you're going to be hanging onto his bumper as he screeches out of your driveway yelling, "Psycho!" out the window.

Don't let that happen.

[nebulachic]

<<<<<<<<<<<<You and your boyfriend are not going to be together forever>>>>>>>>>

Gigabitch,

Why do you say this? Do you think he's asking too much (assurance).. or do you think he's lying when he says he's not interested in other women?

[misombra]

he's rollin with another woman. she was probably there when you called.

[nebulachic]

Why would he tell me he loves me and wants to be with me and talk all serious if he has met someone else???

[misombra]

how else is he going to get in your pants?