How can I make her like me more?

[bsloss13]

Ok so theres this girl who I like alot, but did not realize how much I liked her until recently.... I know she used to like me awhile ago and we were hooking up but she left me for her ex for about 2 days until she realized she was wrong..... then we were back and i left her for someone else for a week..... since then we have been off and on and only hooked up a couple times over a couple months..... recently ive been into her WAY more then i ever used to be, and want a relationship with her.... the thing is she doesnt want a relationship and i can't figure out why. She's not attached to me like she used to be even though ive been way nicer to her and pay way more attention to her then i ever have. I talk to her everyday and maybe i like her too much but she's the only thing i want....
How can I get her attached to me again? I have been told to play harder to get and maybe she wants a chase? How would I do this and would this even work? because i dont want to lose her...

[DarkDwarf]

Oooh, "How can I make her like me more?"...

That is the ultimate question. Theres not much you can do in my opinion. If she is not looking for a serious relationship, there just isn't a way you can force her into one. Perhaps you need to confront her about it? Tell her how you feel and ask her if she feels the same way. If she doesn't, she doesn't, but the first step is confronting her about it and telling her your feelings.

[bsloss13]

well let me start off by saying im 17 and shes 18.... she told her cousin she wants a mature relationship, so its not that she doesnt want one i think i may be overdoing it and talking to her a little too much.... she told me a couple weeks ago that im acting like were bf/gf and were not and her cousin also told me that she thought i was being to easy with her (i called her and she didnt pick up so i texted her saying thanks for picking up thats cool, and she called me back and i picked up like nothing had happened) maybe this could be a reason? i talked to her yesterday because weve been planning to hang out but when it comes down to it she never can so i got kind of mad then we ended up talking about everything and she told me that the reason she doesnt want to get attached to me is because she doesnt want to get hurt and she doesnt want to hurt me...... i told her i would never do anything to hurt her but idk im kind of in a rough spot, and i really dont want to lose her

[DarkDwarf]

Alright, so then you are fairly sure that she wants a mature relationship, but I still think confronting her about the issue, or whatever issue you believe there is in your current relationship, will help to propel the situation forward. If you do want a relationship, as it appears, then being honest with her from the start is a good cornerstone. Ask her how she feels about you, are you being a bit too intrusive, etc.? If it makes you feel better, you might back off until you have the chance to talk with her about it.

[Junket]

Maybe she just doesn't want a mature relationship with you.

[CAM]

You can't make a woman like you. In the immortal words of Mike Damone, "A woman decides how far she'll let you go in the first five minutes." Not far from the truth.

Women base choice of mates on emotions. Men assume that they can use rationality to persuade a woman to like them. Doesn't work that way...

[DaudRaza]

Jus Show Her WadEva You Are, Neva Try To Change YourSelf, It Could Be Injusted For Her, Cuz She Is Not Liking You For Who You Are