Why do some people feel the need to jump from one relationship to another?

[jmah]

It’s as though they have to be with someone, and when that doesn’t work, they move right onto the next; not giving themselves any “alone time”.

[Petit Papillon]

I think some are just such creatures that they can't be alone I have a friend who since she was 14 or 15 she never was alone for more than 3-4 weeks Now she's 20
And besides,When You meet someone good,why wait few years?Just because ex relationship has ended few weeks before... Especially like in my case,"divorce" was not from my fault and my ex doesn't deserve any respect. Really. Anyway,he called me a bitch even when I didn't do nothing wrong Well I couldn't cause I even didn't leave my home,never. He just imagined that I am cheating on him,and actually he did.
Of course if someone is in a relationship and thinks about finding someone new it sucks.But ok...

[Mish]

It’s as though they have to be with someone, and when that doesn’t work, they move right onto the next; not giving themselves any “alone time”.

For some people there's a question of time. Time to have a family is running out, so they are on a mission.

[Cbrider]

It’s as though they have to be with someone, and when that doesn’t work, they move right onto the next; not giving themselves any “alone time”.

The person left person A for person B to start with, or they have some kind of personal issue(s).

Its not normal behavior for someone with morals and feelings to jump right away.

[carl1222]

It’s as though they have to be with someone, and when that doesn’t work, they move right onto the next; not giving themselves any “alone time”.

I actually got an answer to this from a girl i know. She said "It's easier to get out of a bad relationship if you have something to go to."

Some people just can't stand being single. My guess is that it's because they are already in a new relationship even BEFORE they end the old one.

Carl.

[jmah]

I think that I was just a big, fat rebound.

I remember certain times throughout the relationship she had this strong fear that I was going to hurt her (leave her/cheat on her). She (unbenownst to me) had many issues (she kept a lot inside) and was afraid to open up to me about them; out of fear that she would scare me away. She still won't tell me about them. She would also say things like 'you're going to find my ways annoying at some point, I'm sure", and was worried that she was going to be "too clingy", and that she wasn't mature enough for me. She also said that at the very end after we had broken up, that she didn't think that she deserved me. Low self-esteem, seeking security and wanting to feel loved/wanted all came into play, I think. As soon as things weren't perfect between her and I, she went back to her ex. Apparently, she still had a strong emotional tie with her ex (the ex who repeatedly treated her badly in the past (emotional abuse)). The ex whom recently was 'reformed' and wanting my g/f back so desperately and whom went out of her way to prove that she had changed her ways (although, they're still fighting and according to my ex "not working on things"). There's a huge co-dependency thing between the two. I think that even though she did care about me, all that I provided at the time was a bit of security..

I've been played for a fool and it's hurt like a bitch.

[carl1222]

I have no experience with how it works in relationships between girls, but it does sound like the typical rebound situation to me:

1) she broke up with her girlfriend because their relationship was no longer working;
2) she gets together with you (rebound girl);
3) her memories of the bad times fade more quickly than her memories of the good times with her ex;
4) she wishes it could be like it was when they were happy together;
5) her ex gets on her best behavior, and pursues her ... promising that things will be different this time.
6) she dumps you and gets back with her ex to "try again."

Of course, you know the outcome:

7) things really haven't changed, and the relationship falls apart again for the same reason it failed in the first place.

But that's little comfort to you.

Sorry for your pain.

Carl.

[Aeradalia]

I have no experience with how it works in relationships between girls, but it does sound like the typical rebound situation to me:

1) she broke up with her girlfriend because their relationship was no longer working;
2) she gets together with you (rebound girl);
3) her memories of the bad times fade more quickly than her memories of the good times with her ex;
4) she wishes it could be like it was when they were happy together;
5) her ex gets on her best behavior, and pursues her ... promising that things will be different this time.
6) she dumps you and gets back with her ex to "try again."

Of course, you know the outcome:

7) things really haven't changed, and the relationship falls apart again for the same reason it failed in the first place.

But that's little comfort to you.

Sorry for your pain.

Carl.

Love is love.. gay or straight... and pretty much those reasons were in play --- (coming from a girl that's dated other girls..)

Sometimes people can be so wishy-washy... hopefully you will have better success in the future. Might be best to be with someone who's had more time alone after a relationship. Less chance of being a 'rebound.'

[IndiReloaded]

Rebounds are when someone starts dating someone else so they don't have to deal with the pain of being alone. This also touches upon not wanting to deal with the reasons why someone breaks up with them.

I would be very wary of anyone who just got out of a deep relationship & hasn't dealt with their crap associated with it. Tho one can't always know. There are a hella lot of emotional cowards out there, best to avoid those if you can recognize them.

[Illusional]

some people just can't stand to be alone...

as for me, i just get bored easily.

raverboy

[lost1976]

Well my girl said that she wanted to be alone. When I asked if she had found someone she said, why is it so hard for you to believe that I want to be alone.

I said, ok.

Then merely a month later she writes about some guy on her blog. I didnt join the dots then. But then a couple more months later she writes about the vacation she went on with this guy.

In a way that made it easier on me knowing that it wasnt that she wanted to be alone but rather that she had found someone. Being rejected for someone else is better than being rejected for a vibrator.

[greenfish7]

they never give time between one ..maybe because they were never serious in the relationship..theres is no other reason why one does not greive or be alone for sometime...they wanted to get away / more happy breaking off...

[lesa]

they never give time between one ..maybe because they were never serious in the relationship..theres is no other reason why one does not greive or be alone for sometime...they wanted to get away / more happy breaking off...

Not in all cases. Some people have ended very serious relationships and quickly moved on to another. They do it to love the hurt away. Ever heard of rebound relationship?

[kak]

I have heard advice that i have not experienced yet, and is a bit harsh.

"the best way to get over someone is to be under someone."

Thoughts?

[bluesummer]

Insecurity. Some people need other people to be an emotional prop for them.