Ever thought to yourself, is it just me? Well that’s how I’m feeling so I thought I’d sign up here in the hope of you answering this question for me.
I’m in love and very much so, with a woman who loves me very much and is about to become my second wife. We’re both in our 40’s and like nothing better than each others company. We’re together over two years and not once have we fought with each other. I imagine this is because we both like who the other is, respect who the other is and neither of us is trying to change who the other person is, in any way.
My problem is so petty when I take the above into account but, by the same token, it’s breaking my heart.
When I met my fiancée, she didn’t have that many nice clothes. This was great in that I could buy them for her and I did. I bought a wardrobe of dresses, skirts and matching items. Everything was bought online and simple to return. Occasionally some items were returned but overall she loved the clothes. She knows I like women to wear skirts and she knows how much I like to see her dressed, as I would feel, like a lady. I don’t like trousers on women but equally, I completely and fully respect every woman’s right to wear what they wish, including my fiancée.
We’ve talked about this a lot and please don’t ask me why it’s so important to me, I don’t know. We eat out regularly and she normally wears a dress to dinner. I more recently bought some skirts for her to wear as casual daywear. But every day, she wears trousers. So I raised the issue, how much was spent and how all of that was a waste if these clothes are only to collect dust.
Now I was of the distinct impression that she might like wearing these clothes and that she knows how happy she would make me if she would. But she’s told me she won’t. She will wear, as before, a dress to dinner or maybe dress up on occasions such as holidays or Christmas.
Before you say I shouldn’t be trying to change her, I bought them for casual wear, she knew that, we agreed she’d return them if she didn’t want them as they were expensive and I would have accepted that. I would have been disappointed at my girlfriend only ever wearing trousers but I would have accepted it.
Now, I’m disappointed and I feel a bit of a mug too. Not just for spending money needlessly but also because I had believed one thing to be true while the reality of it was the opposite.
It blew up a couple of weeks ago and we came closer than before to fighting. We’ve agreed to put it behind us and move on but as I say, I’m broken hearted by it.
I’d appreciate your thoughts…