approaching someone higher up than you

[djp6]

hey,
I've got a little thing going on with a girl at work. The only problem is that there isn't any reason for us to talk. We only see during lunch and even then there's alot of other people, so no privacy, which is very important to me in these things. I need a subtle way to show her that I'm really interested. Then maybe she could come to me.

[Lipp]

Well, if you already know eachother a bit, what keeps you from having brief casual talks before/during/after work? Greet her when she shows up in the morning, walk her to her car, share a coffee, along those lines, just to make you stand out of the crowd of "just colleagues".

Do be mindful of the problems of dating colleagues though.

[djp6]

Well, if you already know eachother a bit, what keeps you from having brief casual talks before/during/after work? Greet her when she shows up in the morning, walk her to her car, share a coffee, along those lines, just to make you stand out of the crowd of "just colleagues".

Do be mindful of the problems of dating colleagues though.

I would if I could but we're not really colleagues. I don't even know when she comes to work. The only time I can expect to see her is lunch. And even that is unsure because our lunch times rotate.

On top of that, it would be, in a way, unprofessional of her to talk to me. Except if it was about work and there really isn't anything work related for us to talk about.

The only things I can think of are subtle greetings, smiling and maybe asking a little about her work(security).
But the problem is that it doesn't come naturally to me to do that and it's allways a surprise when I see her so I can't prepare myself all that much.

[alovehangoverr]

I would if I could but we're not really colleagues. I don't even know when she comes to work. The only time I can expect to see her is lunch. And even that is unsure because our lunch times rotate.

On top of that, it would be, in a way, unprofessional of her to talk to me. Except if it was about work and there really isn't anything work related for us to talk about.

The only things I can think of are subtle greetings, smiling and maybe asking a little about her work(security).
But the problem is that it doesn't come naturally to me to do that and it's allways a surprise when I see her so I can't prepare myself all that much.

If it's unprofessional for her to talk to you-- what do you think dating you is going to be?

[djp6]

If it's unprofessional for her to talk to you-- what do you think dating you is going to be?

Well, I happen to know that she is working here for only a few months anymore. Maybe then.

[im-mi]

If you know each other, then just ask her mobile phone number and text to her. It is the best to approach her and develop a relationship

[djp6]

If you know each other, then just ask her mobile phone number and text to her. It is the best to approach her and develop a relationship

I don't know her so I can't do that right away. I'd have to get a little small talk in first but
it's always a surprise when I see her. I'd have to act fast but I always just choke and think that there will be a next time.